The unplugged wedding already has a lot of traction. Taking photos, videos and generally playing with your smart phone during a wedding ceremony is just plain rude. Bottom line – don’t let people take photos during the ceremony – leave it to the professionals or designated people. Not only can it ruin the official photos, it distracts from being in the moment.
But in this digital age there’s more to think about than that. There are so many ways we interact online. From hashtags to Instagram – what are the dos and don’ts for today’s weddings?
Couples need to figure it all out ahead of time and then communicate their wishes clearly with their guests. Here are some of the issues and a few solutions, too!
If you have a wedding specific hastag, let everyone know about it. That is easily accomplished with some cute signage. That way all the fun photos (taken after the ceremony of course) will be accessible on Twitter, Instagram and any specific photo sharing site you might choose. There are lots of apps for this, like Wedding Snap, GuestShots, WedSocial, and a ton more! The hashtag brings them all together.
When choosing your hashtag keep it simple but unique – something people will remember. Note that the “&” sign doesn’t work on Instagram, so make it #JoeAndJoan not #Joe&Joan. Then check to be sure no one has already used the same hashtag or your photos will wind up grouped with theirs. #LoisHeckmanCelebrant – Notice how the capital letters help you read it.
An excellent use of technology is to pin your location on a Google Map to share with your guests. Send the link by email and everyone will find their way!
Another good use for digital communication is a ‘save the date’ message. You can include any additional information about the wedding (such as things to do and places to stay) and of course gift registries on-line. However, DO NOT email invitations or thank you notes. That is the place for good old-fashioned paper.
Live-streaming your wedding is a way to include guests who will not be able to attend. It’s especially wonderful for loved ones too far to make the trip. Or a family member in a nursing home (arrange this ahead of time with staff) – how thrilled they will be to see some of the action!
Brides and grooms: don’t update your Facebook status at the altar- its been done – it’s old news and no longer cute.
Guests: don’t text or tweet about what you did or didn’t like at the wedding – it will come back to bite you!
Everyone: enjoy a few selfies for sure, but don’t endless take photos of yourself and your friends. Try to actually have conversations. Don’t tweet every moment of the event. It’s both annoying and makes others feel left out.
Brides and women in general – don’t tuck your cell phone into your cleavage. Yuk! Carry a clutch purse, not a phone!
I love the internet and I hate the internet. It’s a blessing and a curse. Use technology to enhance not distract from your wedding. #GoodLuckWithThat.