I’m a Celebrant, not a wedding planner, and I try to keep this column focused on the big stuff – what’s important in a wedding, and first and foremost that is the couple’s commitment. The union of two people in marriage is expressed through their ceremony. I do, however, stray off-topic from time to time and its fun to think about all the details, large and small.
Today I’m going to talk about shoes. Yes, shoes. Most women love them and so do many men.
For brides picking the perfect shoes for the wedding can be very important. It represents beauty, glamour and sexiness, too. And men often show a bit of creativity by wearing a pair of sneakers with a suit, or putting some colored laces into their dress shoes. As you walk down the aisle in those shoes you are beginning to walk your new path – that of marriage.
Even shoes have history and meaning, and I recently visited a shoe museum in Barcelona. I learned that in Biblical times a sandal was given as a sign of an oath.
In the Middle Ages a father passed his authority over his daughter to her husband in a shoe ceremony. At the wedding, the groom handed the bride a shoe, which she put on to show she was then his subject. (Sound like a famous Disney story)
In China one of the bride’s red shoes is tossed from the roof to ensure happiness for the bridal couple, and in Hungary the groom drinks a toast to his bride out of her wedding slipper.
There’s an old Victorian tradition of putting a penny in your shoe for good luck (something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue and a sixpence in your shoe).
And let’s not forget the tradition of tying shoes to the bumper of the newly wed’s car.
When selecting shoes, besides choosing something that makes you look great, make sure they feel great – literally. Comfort really does have a part to play. Even those crazy super high heels, that I hope are going out of style, can at least be ‘broken in’ before walking down the aisle in them. I have seen more than one bride struggle in uncomfortable shoes. Remember, you’ll not only walk in them – but most likely have to stand in them for quite a while. Stretch the shoes if necessary and consider buying cushy insoles to put into them. Even strappy sandals can have a comfort cushion on the insole. And, by the way, all of the above goes for bridesmaids too.
Today its not surprising that anything goes. Cowboy boots are popular for weddings. Toms, a shoe company that makes relaxed flats and gives a pair of shoes to the developing world for every pair purchased, makes a wedding shoe. From the ridiculous to the sublime – all options are on the table (or should I say floor?)
One of my favorite trends is the shoe of a different color – pairing a deliciously bright and fun shoe with the white gown. Some brides like to write little messages on the bottom of their shoes. Men too, are adding pizzazz via their shoe choices or with a really fun pair of socks.
While I’m sure to get back to ritual, spirituality, traditions and cultural here in Pocono Wedding Talk, have fun choosing your shoes.
Photo by Lisa Rhinehart - gorgeous as always!!
(shoe museum photos from me)