Is there anything to be learned from celebrity weddings for us common folks? Up until now I’d say no. Of course how would I know since I’ve never read about them, wrote about them, or cared about them. Until now. You’d have to live in a cave to not have heard about Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt getting married. How does this famous couple’s nuptials stack up to the rest of us?
Like many couples today, they waited a long time to marry, nine years. Like many couples with children, whether from previous marriages or theirs together, the kids were the motivation. For families tying the knot – it truly means a lot, because clearly marriage represents a promise of safety and security, and this is something children need.
There were some interesting elements in the Brangelina wedding. The famous couple had said many years ago that they wouldn’t marry until same-sex couples also had equal rights. And while there are still only 19 states with marriage equality, the tide has turned and the time had finally come for them. You can bring your world-view into your wedding in many ways, but Brad and Angie didn’t make any political statements; it was a statement of their commitment to each other and their family.
So how did they involve their children? The same way most people do. The older children escorted their mother down the aisle, the younger girls tossed petals and the younger boys were the ring bearers. But it was the dress that told the story, and it was especially creative and beautiful how Jolie had the children’s drawings embroidered onto her designer gown. The point, Jolie explained, was to involve the kids because “that represents the way we live our life together.” Ok, probably only the rich could pull off that trick!
I don’t know if there was more involvement with their children, but I always recommend doing something symbolic with kids. It doesn’t require a seamstress sewing artwork onto your dress. Instead, you can pour sand, give them a keepsake gift, say vows to them, weave ribbons, join hands, or any number of ways to let them know how much the wedding is about them as well as the two of you. Gee, I wish they’d hired me to officiate!
Mature couples often feel less constrained by tradition. This doesn’t mean it’s not meaningful, but perhaps more focused on the important elements of their lives.
The couple also kept their guest list very small, and we can safely assume they could afford any size wedding they wished, but wanted to keep it intimate. Small weddings can be really wonderful, whatever your budget. Again, this is true of many couples today.
I read that Brad Pitt wore a suit out of his own closet. Take note men! But then again, his closet probably holds quite a few appropriate suits.
Will I be writing about more celebrity weddings? Probably not, but I never know where I might find inspiration in the world of weddings.