Weddings lead to anniversaries!

A wedding is not an event unto itself, but a step in the journey of a lifetime. It is important for couples to be mindful of this when planning their wedding celebration, and officiating weddings is a constant reminder to me about the true meaning of marriage. It’s just a fringe benefit of being a celebrant, and one of the reasons that this work is so rewarding. I know I am not only providing a meaningful ceremony for the couple, but it is enriching for me, as well.

Ashville

Ashville

For brides and grooms reading this, if you are getting caught up in the frenzy that can become wedding planning, stop and remember why you are really getting married. Focus on your vision of the future and it will help you get your head together in the present. Things may go wrong on your wedding day, but that will also happen in your marriage. How you deal with it is up to you. Why not see it as an opportunity to strengthen your life skills, as individuals and as a couple? You know all those words about ‘for better or for worse?’ Well, those are real. No one gets to have a long relationship without learning how to weather the storms. You must trust in the ‘ebb and flow’ of life.

at the Golden Gate Bridge

at the Golden Gate Bridge

Ann Morrow Lindbergh put it so well in ‘The Gift From the Sea’ when she wrote: When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

In Italy

In Italy

Today is my 30th wedding anniversary and I am pausing and thinking about all the ups and downs of my marriage. And I must say that it is has all been pretty wonderful and worthwhile and looks to continue to be so. But I must continue to remember some of the many wise words I am always saying to other couples who are at the beginning of their journey. There are so many great words of advice on marriage: one of my favorite’s is The Art of Marriage’ and I especially love the last line that reminds us of the importance of not only choosing the right partner, but being the right partner.

These are some photos from some of my adventures with Kent!

at home

at home

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