Some things to think about…

Today – a few observations that I hope may be beneficial to you.

First about a banquet facility, that shall remain nameless. The wedding ceremony was held on the nice patio just outside the banquet room. Good start. However, there was a bar, yes a bar, which was a separate facility, just above us, with an outdoor balcony overlooking our ceremony. Folks were there watching the wedding, and I don’t have a problem with that. Sometimes at Skytop Lodge or Shawnee Inn there are people around, not wedding guests, who observe the ceremonies, but they are always quiet and respectful. This was different – there were a lot of folks and they were noisy.

Add to that a loud air conditioning compressor not too far away from the ceremony setting. If I didn’t have a microphone the guests would not have heard one single word! I’ve officiated by highways and with other outside intrusions. Of course we all make the best of these situations and tune it out, but ideally, it’s best if your ceremony spot is a more quite one. Remember, even the ocean is loud – so for beach weddings I also have used a PA system.

Alerting folks to be quiet!

Alerting folks to be quiet!

So remember, when you are visiting potential wedding venues, open your eyes and ears to what is surrounding the facility.

And on another topic – twice recently I was contacted by couples who were planning large weddings in the future. They were so stressed out over the wedding plans they decided to elope! I performed one wedding for one couple, just the two of them, as they already had their license, and it was lovely. Very, very poignant for them. Consequently they were quite relieved and happy. The other couple is planning to marry privately in a few weeks. Neither couple intends to tell their families.

Just the two of them, getting away from it all and eloping!

Just the two of them, getting away from it all and eloping!

This is quite an extreme to go to, but both couples felt so unhappy and pressured it led them to this action. I hope that getting married in advance of the ‘big’ wedding accomplishes what they wanted. And I hope they can now go forward with the plans that are underway with a lighter heart. I’m not recommending this, but I can say that they took control of their own lives and got married in their own way and on their own terms.

An elopement was the only way out!

An elopement was the only way out!

Take from this what you want, but it is certainly a cautionary tale.

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