More on stress and weddings….

Continuing on the topic from my last blog… there are many stressful issues that come up when planning a wedding.

Sometimes couples want a simple or small wedding, but get swept along in the swell of enthusiasm or the desires of their parents. It can start to feel out of control. If this is the case with your family, sit down with them and discuss your feelings and work towards the compromises that need to be made. Would you prefer to have the tens of thousands of dollars they will be spending as a down payment for a home, or used for a honeymoon trip of a lifetime? Or does having a large wedding mean the world to them and simply have to happen. If the latter, you probably have to accept it with grace.

Not your mother's wedding!


Pleasing mom while pleasing yourself

This is a good time to recall that your family is going through their own anxieties and emotions connected to your wedding. This isn’t only about you. If Mom, Dad, sister, or friend, says or does something inappropriate, give them a break. Remember, they only wish you the best and are trying to help. They just may not understand that they are not being helpful and need to know what type of help is needed. Here’s that communication issue again!

Something mom always imaged becomes reality! It's her day, too.


There are big expectations – both of yourself and from others. Issues that may cause you emotional conflict can range from the walk down the aisle, wearing a veil, changing your name, or on a grander scale: ‘am I really ready to be married?’ It is normal to have conflicting feelings about the many issues and decisions you now face. (Here’s a fun little quiz)

There is no such thing as a perfect wedding, so there is certainly no perfect wedding planning. Acknowledging fear is a huge step in understanding yourself and accepting the whole ‘human-ness’ of this big event.


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