More on Successful Wedding Planning

In my last two blogs I wrote about knowing yourself, your values and the importance of boundaries. Here are a few more tips for planning your wedding.

Welcome out-of-town guests.


One of the most common complaints I hear is the ‘wait’ time between the ceremony and the reception (Most common when the service is at a church and the reception elsewhere). If guests are from out of the area, they may have no place to wait during that time period. Even when the ceremony and reception are at the same location it can be problematic. When photographers take the couple away immediately following the ceremony, they may take too long, leaving guests anxious to see the couple, waiting for them to make their big entrance. Find out in advance how your photograph plans to proceed. If you want to minimize the time between the ceremony and cocktail or reception time, inform your photographer, and make other plans for additional photos.

Offer lots of  non-alcoholic choices. Drinking is fine and most people know their limits, but it is a long day and some folks feel more social with a drink in hand. Besides the usual sodas, offer a specialty non-alcoholic beverage and feature it in some way, to encourage your guests to pace themselves.

Offer lovely non-alcolholic drinks!

If you are having a religious ceremony, provide some information in your program for those unfamiliar with any religious text or rituals used in the ceremony.

Translations, explanations and information also go a long way in making everyone feel welcome and included. The ceremony is, in fact, the heart of the matter, where you state your desire to make a lifetime commitment, so let everyone fully understand what is happening. This also sets a terrific tone for your reception celebration.

Indicate with your invitation or website the style of your wedding so guests will know how to dress appropriately. If you ever spent time in spike heels on wet grass, or hours shivering in a strapless dress and no shawl, you know what I mean.

Prepared with a shawl!

Many couples are now providing information for out of town guests on what to do, where to stay and even offering organized activities for their guests such as golf outings or a day spa experience. For some people a weekend wedding out-of-town is a min-vacation. Leave some independent time along with organized time, providing flexibility for your guests to choose what they would like to do.

And finally, that dose of humor will go a long way. If some little thing does go wrong, and surely it will, simply find it in yourself to have the courage to laugh. Your grace under fire will go a long way in inspiring your family and friends to truly relax and enjoy your celebration.

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