As modern couples strive to make their weddings more personal, there are many ways, big and small, to express oneself. Continuing on last week’s theme, I have a few more suggestions. For your consideration ….
The unique program booklet – make your wedding program reflect your style, with pictures, drawings and lots of information, rather than an outline of the ceremony. Get creative, think out of the box and draw outside the lines!
Or – ditch the cake completely. Go with the cupcakes or ice cream for dessert – if you like it better than cake – then serve it!
And of course my specialty: ritual, ritual, ritual.
Create a unique ritual for your ceremony or reception. Pictured here is the ‘Wine Box’ ritual, which has many variations. You don’t have to put wine in a box, think of it as a ‘time capsule.’ The idea is to put something, such as a bottle of wine and two glasses, or something else important for you, along with letters the bride and groom write to each other before their wedding day. The box is to be opened on an anniversary or if your marriage hits a rough patch, open the box, read the letters, and remember why you got married.
I don’t have a lot of rules – but I hope you will remember that a unity candle ritual just won’t work outdoors. And if the candles can’t be lit, or they blow out, you haven’t exactly achieved the symbolism you’re looking for. If you have your heart set on this and are having an outdoor wedding – consider lighting the candles at the reception.
There are so many rituals, of course, evocative of faith traditions and culture, or ideas chosen or created because they speak to your style, values and sensibility.
I’m sure I’ll be writing about this more!