Children in Weddings

Today one of my favorite things: children in weddings.

A beautiful family sand ceremony!

The children may be your children, having a family first and getting married second is not that uncommon today. And when mommy and daddy are getting married – it is wonderful, and important, to include the child or children, beyond the usual flower girl or ring bearer.

And for the fifty percent of men and women who walk down the aisle more then once, there may be children from previous marriages.  In this situation the most important message you can send is that whether a child is yours or mine, he or she is now ours. Involvement is the key to making a child feel part of this new union and for providing an honest, positive message.

Consider having them  join in a family ritual, such as a family  unity candle, a family sand ceremony, or an exchange of symbols or gifts such as jewelry, just like mom and dad exchanging rings.

You can exchange vows or an “I do” with them, offering your promise to continue to love and support them. Ask your officiant to help you do this.

What you don’t want is the children sitting silently feeling left out – like guests at their own party. Don’t underestimate the importance of your wedding for your children. Please remember to take time to include them in some way. It will help create a happier, healthy, new family life, or strengthen the one you have.

They gave the daughter a lovely little necklace. A moment she will always remember.

 

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    Lois Heckman

    Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Follow her on Pinterest, ... Read Full
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