A recent survey shows that brides are not happy about their guest’s photos being shared on social media. I agree.
First, when I am officiating a ceremony I hope people will focus on it’s meaning, not on their cell phone cameras. A wedding ceremony is a significant and sacred time in the lives of the couple and their families. Attention should be focused on that.
The other problem is those less-than-flattering photos captured by guests, that always wind up on the internet.
Most weddings have a professional photographer. Let he or she do their job. Your job is to be a gracious guest.
Although its not quite as important for the party as it is for the ceremony, still… there are times to disconnect ourselves from our electronic devices and social media. I am also guilty of being on my iPhone or on Facebook too much, so I include myself in this reminder. There is a time and a place for everything.
The wedding reception is a wonderful opportunity to interact with people you haven’t seen in a while or get to know others. Make an effort to meet someone from the ‘other side.’ If you are a guest of the bride, make an effort to interact with someone from the groom’s side.
Cameras are sometimes placed on the tables at the reception. This is certainly fun – but they get turned over to the couple, who then have control over them and can select the photos they want to share.
So what can you do about guests who are too focused on taking photos and videos?
One idea is to put a polite note in your wedding program, if you are having one. Wording might be something like ‘please refrain from taking photos during our ceremony. We want our guests to be engaged in the moment, and we promise to get you photos from our expert photographer.’ Or something along those lines.
You could also ask your officiant or wedding planner to announce this; or if you have greeters or ushers, have them casually mention it as people enter the ceremony area – along with the reminder to turn off cell phones.
I know you want beautiful photos from your wedding day. Your professional photographer will insure that happens, but your family and friends cannot.
thanks to Rob Lettieri for the photo