Everyone has either heard about or been to a raunchy bachelor or bachelorette party, and pop culture has done a lot to promote an image of what this party should be. But, truth be told, most people are embarrassed by tacky parties that involve over-the-top sexualized events, and rely on stereotypes and way too much drinking to create the fun.
If you are looking for ways to have a more personal, stylish or sophisticated party, here are some that may work for you.
How about a champagne brunch, with the perfect menu, held at a hotel or resort, and maybe even including a spa treatment or round of golf. But who would pay for something that expensive? If you can’t afford to spring for everyone, have the spa treatment or golf as optional, with pricing listed on the invite, but of course, you must treat the bride or groom.
For beer lovers – how about a ‘beers of the world’ themed get together? Splurge on some really great brews, and include the matching beer glass. You might conduct it as a beer tasting. A Mexican or other international flavored menu to go with it would be great! Of course if you prefer wine – obviously – a wine tasting!
A night at the casino. Get a room at the hotel for the initial get together and snacks, then schedule an hour in the casino, followed by a show! You can set limits on the gambling, by constraining the time in the casino.
Lead a group of friends to an undisclosed location (along the river, on top of a mountain?) where the caterer meets you and a sumptuous meal is presented. Be sure to include lounge chairs! How mysterious.
How about a round of paint-ball or rafting trip? Be sure to order some custom T-shirts or caps to commemorate the event.
Here are a few dos and don’ts:
- Don’t plan it for the night before the wedding.
- Do set a budget, and a time limit, when the event begins and ends. It should not be open-ended.
- Don’t play drinking games.
- Do have a designated driver.
- Do ask the bride or groom for input into the invite list.
- Do make sure everyone invited to the party is also invited to the wedding.
- And most importantly: don’t do anything you’d be embarrassed to have your future spouse know about!
Oh yes, one more thing: do have a blast!
PHOTO CREDIT: Kelly Planer