So much stress! So many decisions, conflicts, financials worries, family issues, and pulling it all together! How can you really enjoy your own wedding? Many couples don’t, actually, and that is sad. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are some tips to help you relax – and enjoy your wedding ceremony and all the partying that precedes and follows it.
FOCUS ON THE FUTURE – to ease worry in the days before the wedding, focus on events that will follow the wedding. Read books or brochures about your honeymoon destination, or other plans. Think about your first holiday as a married couple. Remember – your wedding day is just the beginning.
CODE WORD – have a fun code word or phrase between just the two of you that will make you laugh and ease tensions. Discuss how to use it ahead of time and use it judiciously!
HAVE A PLAN – for greeting guests and remind each other to visit all the guests at the dinner. Have a written list of important people to thank, to remind you at the party (in case you forget who’s who.)
LISTEN – remember to listen to the officiant at the ceremony and think about the meaning of the words. Look at each other and let the guests melt away. The ceremony is for YOU. Be present in the moment.
COMFORT – Brides, please select comfortable, or somewhat comfortable shoes… really, it WILL make a difference. Or bring an extra pair of shoes, such as a pretty ballet slipper style, to change into if necessary. And on this subject, make sure your bouquet is not too heavy, or your dress too long.
TAKE A BREAK – If space is available, take a couple of short breaks and freshen up, sit down, and BREATHE. In yoga, what is called ‘mindful breathing’ will help you relax. Just a few minutes of concentrating only on your breathing will do the trick.
MODERATION – Alcohol dehydrates, so drink plenty of water. Don’t drink too much, and be sure to have plenty of alternatives to alcoholic drinks available for you and your guests. Design a special mixed drink for your special day, name it after the two of you, and offer it with and without alcohol.
Remember, you have already made the most important decision – you have chosen each other. Everything else is just icing on the (wedding) cake!