Every bride or groom can’t help but imagine a picture-perfect wedding day. The media hype around weddings is over-the-top and expectations are high. Because of this many couples have many worries about their wedding. These are natural feelings and I don’t think anyone intends to become a ‘bridezilla’ or that ‘crazy couple’ because they are so stressed out. To make the most of your wedding planning and the big day itself, keep some reasonable guidelines in mind. Here are a few things to think about:
This is one of the most important milestones in life so give yourself permission to feel many things, and being nervous is one of them. Feeling anxious, excited, nervous and full of adrenaline is part of it, because it matters!
To help keep those nerves under control however, focus on something in the future such as your honeymoon or other event you are planning.
There can be a lot of down time, whether between ceremony and reception or hair appointment and ceremony, and just preparing on the morning or the wedding. Sitting doing nothing in anticipation is sure to raise the anxiety level. Prepare something fun to do with your bridal party in case you find yourselves sitting around waiting. Read from a book to each other, have a DVD or photo album to look at, or just take time to reminisce and share your feelings.
Don’t set unrealistic expectations about the day. Nothing is ever perfect. Don’t sweat the small stuff!
Pack an emergency kit that includes everything from band-aids, mini sewing kit, something to sooth a stomach or headache, and alternate shoes!
Speaking of shoes, please break in your shoes, and brides should do so wearing their wedding dress. Sadly I’ve also seen bride’s tripping on their dresses. Really, I urge you to wear the shoes and dress around the house (in private, of course!)
And speaking of the dress – if you are wearing a veil with it, give that a trial run as well. I’ve seen veils blow off outdoors or just generally become a nuisance.
Plan a get-away moment together as a couple – to stop and take it all in. Have a fun ‘code word’ when you need your new spouse to help you!
Choose the best professionals to work with and then trust them to do their job.
Your wedding is really just one day in your life, but your marriage is for the rest of your life – try to keep that in perspective. Remember, things will happen, but in the end you will be married!
Thank you Rob Lettieri for the beautiful photographs.