Calling All Grooms

Sometimes grooms may seem reluctant to get involved in wedding planning. Culturally its thought to be the ‘bride’s day.’ And brides and their moms do tend to do most of the planning. But many grooms might enjoy it more than they realize, if they realized what they could contribute in a real and meaningful way.

I suggest that couples sit down together at the beginning of their wedding planning journey and talk about the tasks at hand. I have heard from many grooms that they thoroughly enjoyed the planning process and were totally involved. But others were clearly less interested. Those grooms might discover some tasks they would enjoy, if only they knew!

Why should the bride have all the fun!

If he’s good with money, the groom might want to handle the wedding budget. This might go hand in hand with finding and choosing vendors. But remember to balance the cost with the value and importance of what the vendor is providing. Cheapest isn’t best and often you are not comparing apples to apples, but to oranges, so pay attention to the details.

Are there some skills that might be put to work, such as building an arbor, altar or chuppah?
Is music a passion for the groom? Have him work on the play list for the reception as well as selections for the ceremony.

Beer, wine and cocktails are usually involved at wedding receptions. Perhaps the groom might like to choose them. He could even throw a tasting party for friends to help with the selections. Maybe he wants to create a signature drink?

And just as with drinks, a guy who loves food should certainly help with the menu.

Grooms: make sure you speak with your best man about his toast and review with him what you hope and expect.  And making arrangements for out-of-town guests is definitely one of groom’s responsibilities, along with any entertainment for them that might be needed. Create a directory of things to do in the area, with suggestions and tips, or plan some activities, especially something like golf, if that is of interest.

A slide show of photos for the reception could be perfect for the techy groom. Scanning childhood photos and putting them all together can be a chore, and much appreciated by any bride and the families.

Brides: keep your guy updated on your progress and see how he’s doing.

 Thank you once again Lisa Rhinehart! for the gorgeous and award winning photo!

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