There are many reasons couples choose to renew their vows, often on a special anniversary milestone. It’s a way to say to each other, and to family and friends: we still mean it! We still love each other and we want the world to know. You may feel closer than ever, having grown and overcome obstacles over the years. Worthy of celebration for sure!
There are many ways to do this, and one of the best things about it is that you get to do it your way.
For some couples their wedding may not have been exactly what they wanted. They made compromises for various reasons. Sometimes it was because the family was paying the bill. It could have been about religion or tradition. Maybe you could not afford a nice celebration. And sometimes it was just all the expectations and social pressure that left you feeling disappointed with your so-called ‘big day’.
Other couples have nothing but the happiest memories of their wedding day and simply want to reaffirm their commitment to continue to be together always.
Whatever the reason, if you are considering renewing your vows – congratulations! From just the two-of-you to a big party, whatever you decide, this time it’s totally up to you!
If you’re more traditional or sentimental consider revisiting your original wedding or honeymoon location, or using some element from your wedding. Maybe you’d like to do something you couldn’t have way back then; renew your vows on a tropical beach, or other exotic location.
On a spiritual or intellectual level renewing your vows gives you the opportunity to think about your journey, where you’ve been, where you are, and where you still want to go. It is an opportunity to reflect, solidify and deepen your relationship. It is a time to consider what really matters in life, express appreciation for one another and the people you love.
Make sure you are both on the same page. This should be something both partners really want to do. I have been pleasantly surprised that men are more enthusiastic about it than I would have guessed.
You probably don’t want gifts – but often guests pay no attention what so ever to the ‘no gifts please’ memo, so consider asking for donations to a favorite charity in honor of this special occasion.
Because there is no legal component to a renewal of vows you are free to have anyone be your officiant. You can create your own ceremony in any way you wish! However a trained celebrant like myself can bring a lot of skill and creative ideas to the table.
If renewing your vows is in the cards for you, congratulations on a successful relationship! I hope you have the celebration you truly want.
Thank you Michael Straub for the fabulous photo!