If you are getting married you are no doubt excited about taking one of the most important steps in life’s journey. But how do you handle all the ideas and pressures coming at you? You can have your wedding on your own terms, if you approach it thoughtfully. The very first step is to do nothing. Take the time to stop and consider what the two of you really want in your wedding celebration. Do not take a step without some thoughtful consideration. I’m calling this first step: breathe!
Hold onto being engaged for a while without making plans. Unless you have a compelling reason, such as health care, family issues or military deployment, if there is no urgency, take your time in setting a date and booking vendors. If you get ahead of yourselves you may wind up getting behind.
However once you set a date, find and hire your vendors as soon as possible, or you may wind up without the best choices.
I get calls all the time from disappointed couples who want me to officiate only to learn I’m already booked! Ask any good photographer, florist, musician, DJ or officiant like myself. We do book up well in advance.
I recently had a couple reschedule their wedding, moving it a full year later than originally planned because a financial bump in the road. This is a cautionary tale. If you are only one bump away from wedding meltdown, you probably are planning a wedding too big or too soon.
Here are some more ideas to keep in mind when attempting to be sensible about your wedding.
There are no “musts” – other than the legal requirements, that is. Nor are there “shoulds.” You must do this or you should do that are not how happy weddings are created.
Your wedding day is your dream and it’s all about you. NOT. Your wedding day involves everyone who loves you. Don’t be selfish.
Favors are not required, but thank you’s are.
Spend your money on the things that matter most and let go of the rest.
When your head is about to explode from all the wedding details – take a break. Swear off wedding planning for a few days and remember why you are getting married in the first place.
I hope you can keep your sanity when planning your wedding. It doesn’t have to be crazy. You can have a sane and sensible wedding.
Thank you Lisa Rhinehart for the wonderful photograph