Behind the Veil: Pre-Wedding Jitters

Photo credit: Susie Forrester

Emotions are something we often try to control and tears feel like they can get in the way. But it is perfectly normal to be nervous and tearful before your wedding. In fact, I would be worried about you if you were not somewhat nervous.

Before the big day, and just before that big moment when you walk down the aisle, give yourself permission to feel many things. There are often unrealistic expectations about the dream wedding, and what it will feel like. You think it will be the happiest day of your life, but it’s possible that it may turn out to be the most tiring day of your life. It is not unusual to have doubts, sadness, fear, and many mixed emotions, and there is also that adrenalin rush! While it is the beginning of a new era in your life, it is also the end of one. This is simply true and therefore ok to think about.

You are nervous because it is important. So while you may wish to work out all the little wedding details, the physical aspects of your celebration, do not ignore the psychological aspects and all of your feelings. Many people are just shy being the center of attention and speaking or performing in front of people. You really are in the spotlight on your wedding day!

When caught up in little worries about the day, try re-focusing your thoughts on your partner and the future you envision together. If you’re planning a honeymoon, send your mind to that sunny beach or wherever you’re heading!

Take a nice long walk on the morning of your wedding, and don’t forget to eat breakfast. Stay hydrated, too! When you are at your venue preparing, play soothing music, or have scented candles or other relaxing elements around you. That trendy British expression comes to mind: Keep Calm and Carry On!

However if you have made some discovery about your future spouse, such as drug or alcohol abuse or signs of controlling or other abusive behavior, these are serious and you should consider calling off the wedding. Nerves are one thing, but dread is another.

A wedding celebration is more than food, dancing, flowers and a big party. It is an important milestone in your life, so give it the emotional space it needs and deserves.

Thank you Susie Forrester for the lovely photograph!

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