Is it done or over-done?

Beautiful details make the difference - in moderation!

With all the ideas floating around, how do you decide on the right details for your wedding?

Its fun to dive into the various elements – flowers, table arrangements, room décor, seating charts, table numbers, ceremony décor, favors…. the list seems endless!

Many couples want to wow their guests with a beautiful and unique event, and that’s a fine goal. But putting too many elements in the mix can be a mistake. Details can make a big impact, but too many details can be overwhelming. So when is it done and not over done?

In creating ceremonies I often discuss many options for rituals and words, but we cannot include every idea. How many readings are too many in a ceremony, how many rituals?  Would you have 10 bridesmaids and groomsmen stand with you if your total guest count was only 20? I don’t think so.

The same question applies to other aspects of your wedding. Proportion, balance and common sense should guide you. You have to decide which ideas feel right for you. Do they work together? Is there a theme, color, or look, such as rustic or elegant, that ties them together? Does it all fit? It’s hard to discard an idea you love, but sometimes that’s what you have to do!

A simple but often over-looked guideline is: does this reflect us? For example, don’t give coffee favors if you don’t drink coffee, and conversely, everyone knows your passion for nature, so the plants you choose for favors are just perfect. There’s a difference between wowing your guests and confusing them. Does your décor fit your space? Tall elegant vases with formal flowers probably don’t go well in a rustic barn wedding, nor do mason-jar centerpieces work in a formal room. According to experts one common mistake is using too many colors.

Sometimes the best results are the simplest. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to trim your ideas down to your very favorites, see how they work together – and let go of the rest!

My sister is fond of saying (with tongue in cheek): It’s not done til it’s over-done. And while that may be true for some things, it isn’t true for weddings.

As usual – thank you Lisa Rhinehart for the wonderful photographs

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