The hours and moments before your wedding

You’re about to be married. The details are taken care of – the food selected, the cake and flowers are scheduled to be delivered, your marriage license packed … you’re ready for the big day. Or are you? The 24 hours just before the wedding can easily become emotionally overwhelming.

Relaxing - easier said than done.

What’s left to do – other than be nervous? You’ve planned everything else, but planning for the night before and day of your wedding is worth thinking about as well.

Here are a few suggestions to help create a calm and more meaningful lead up to the big day.

Get a good night’s sleep – it’s going to be a long and tiring day. Your mind may be racing, but this is so important – find a way to rest, relax and fall asleep.

If you have a daily routine, such as exercising in the morning, walking your dog or other daily commitments – do as many as possible.

If you’re away from home, staying at your wedding venue or a hotel – take advantage of any amenities they provide. Get a spa treatment, play golf or swim in the morning. Go for a hike. Go to a yoga class. I worked with a couple recently who went kayaking together the morning of their wedding. They said they felt absolutely fantastic, and ready for the ceremony and party.

The bouquet is ready, are you?

Women may have appointments for hair and make-up. Try not to schedule those too early. Sitting around in a robe with hair done and make-up on for hours on end just isn’t all that fun. However, if this is how it has to be – make good use of the time; here are some ways to enhance the wait…

– Bring a few comforting things along – such as family photo albums to look through, reminisce and enjoy, making that connection with the past as you move into your future.

– Bring something inspirational to read.

– Bring some relaxing music to play while getting dressed.

– Talk to someone close to you about their marriage, their wedding day; listen and learn.

– If your bridesmaids, groomsmen, family or special friends are with you – spend some quality time with them. What is quality time, anyway? Simply giving them your full attention, something that will deepen your relationship. It’s good to take your mind off of yourself for a minute. Yes, it is your big day, but it’s also a big day for those you love and love you. Focusing on something or someone other than yourself helps with nervousness and reminds you of your place in the universe.

– Pack a card or notepaper, and write something to send to your partner to read before the ceremony.

Send a note to your betrothed.

Don’t forget to drink water during the day, especially for those outdoor weddings in the heat. (No fainting please!)

And most of all bring your full self – be present, as much as you possibly can.


Thank you Stroudsmoor Photography Studio for the use of these photos!

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