Will the new year bring marriage?

–   If so, here are some basics to think about right from the start.

Happy New Year! It’s 2017 and maybe this year you, or someone you care about, will get married. If so, congratulations. Marriage is one of the big milestones in life, one with a deep, long history. Not that the institution has remained stagnant. After all, in ancient times and Biblical stories, multiple wives were common. The role of women in marriage and family has evolved over time.  Weddings, too, have changed. For example, fathers no longer give a dowry to get rid of their daughters. This we generally call progress.

So, if a wedding is coming up in your world this year, here are a few ideas you may find helpful.

Fireworks for the New Year!!!

You’ve probably already figured out that a wedding is about more than just the two partners. There are countless decisions to be made and everyone in your life has an opinion on them. Even an elopement says something about you and the other people in your lives. If you elope you must reassure your loved ones that you didn’t do this because or despite them, but that you chose to do it for the two of you. Easier said than done! Being true to yourself while you plan your wedding is difficult.

Ask yourself: What would you choose to do if you didn’t have to please others? What choices would you make if you didn’t care what others thought about it? The answers reveal what you want, but compromise is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s all about finding the right balance. This applies to everything from the type of ceremony you will have, to the bridesmaids’ dresses.

Is a casual wedding your style?

Budget, of course, is important. While you can’t always accurately assess what you can afford or how far you want to stretch your budget, we can assess your style. What would you most enjoy: a luncheon, dinner, buffet or formal sit-down meal?  A casual, relaxed party, a black-tie affair, or something in between? It’s good to feel like yourself at the very moment you are taking this big step in life without anxiety or feeling out-of-place. Bottom line: don’t let others talk you into something that isn’t ‘you.’

Games can be great at a casual wedding.

Sometimes I get inquiries about my services as an officiant saying they are looking for a ‘short and sweet’ ceremony. I’ve come to the conclusion that this is because many people have never experienced a truly great ceremony. The wedding ceremony should not be something simply to endure. Even within the tight strictures of some denominations you can still bring in elements of yourself, especially through readings, music and your choice or creation of vows. Don’t be afraid to ask and advocate for yourself.

A program booklet that explains what and why something is happening rather than just gives the guests a check-list to mark-off will also add value to your ceremony. It can contain stories, thank you messages, and other personal touches, such as details about your attendants, parents, or even pets.

Many couples tell me that wedding planning was more difficult than they expected. That is why it’s so important to get your priorities clear right from the start. You need to know what to expect when you’re expecting a wedding. Happy new year and happy wedding planning.

Happy New Year - fireworks any time!!

Thank you Lisa Rhinehart for the gorgeous photos.



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