Smooth Sailing for a Calm Wedding Day

I hereby issue a small storm warning, storms you can avoid on your wedding day!  Some storms are big, and some are small, but they all matter in their own way.

There is so much wedding advice floating around the internet, not to mention from your family and well-intentioned friends. Here are a few of my own tips to have smooth sailing for your wedding planning and the big day itself.

Don’t have a bachelor or bachelorette party the night before the wedding. Hangovers and weddings will make you sea-sick.

If you want the high-end stuff, but can’t afford it, consider cutting back on the number of guests. Also cut back the number of attendants (bridesmaids/groomsmen) because they create expenses, such as special parties or gifts. I’ve had many couple who had not attendants at all – there’s no law against it.

When considering your budget, thin about a brunch or luncheon instead of dinner. When quality matters find a way! You’ll be glad you did.

Here’s a detail for women to think about – shoes! Brides: please don’t wear those giant high heels if you are not completely used to wearing them. I cannot stress enough how important it is to break in your shoes. Wear them around the house for a few hours over several days. Make sure you can walk in your dress with your shoes! And while we’re at it – make sure your dress isn’t too long to manage. I’ve seen a few brides step on her own gown. Ouch!

I recommend skipping an aisle running, especially outdoors. They often buckle and wrinkle and become problematic, even causing you to trip.


If the flowers are wrong, or a bouquet or boutonniere is missing – just go with the flow, make the best of it. I saw a brilliant wedding coordinator at Stroudsmoor who deftly solved such a problem. She simply plucked a flower from a table and pinned it on a family member who had no boutonniere (because none had been ordered for him). She handled it so effortlessly (as they always do there) and the problem was solved! A little creativity and a lot of calm go a long way! Don’t sweat the small stuff.

And speaking of professionalism: Hire the best professionals you can afford, the ones with the best reviews. There is a big difference in the services provided by vendors. Just because your uncle has an iPod doesn’t make him a DJ, nor does your cousin with camera make him a photographer. Carefully check out your vendors, especially reviews, to avoid being disappointed, and remember that adage: you get what you pay for – is often very true.

Never lose your sense of humor and always strive to remain flexible. Do not become a bridezilla! Act graciously no matter what happens and do no give into anxiety and negative emotions it can evoke. Make yourself proud, and your future partner and family, too.

When struggling over a decision ask yourself: would I care about this if I was the guest?

And finally, moving from metaphor to literal – have a great rain plan! Nothing is more important for an outdoor wedding.

Remember that weathering a storm is a measure of your strength as individuals and as a couple, and that whatever goes wrong in planning your big day, is nothing compared to the challenges of marriage!

There are countless other details, tips and ideas to help, but I’m out of space. Something may well go wrong, and the wedding you dreamed of may not be within your reach, but is that what really matters? You have found the right partner to spend your life with, remember that, and everything else will be in perspective.]


THANK YOU Lisa Rhinehart for all the gorgeous boat and water photos. Lisa was chosen as one of the top 50 wedding photographers world-wide.




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