When Style Comes from Within, It Comes Out Right.

Fashion comes and goes, but love never goes out of style. Your wedding celebration can reflect the timelessness of love and marriage combined with your own personal taste.

‘Style’ is defined as a manner of doing or presenting things, especially a fashionable one. And whatever your style, whatever decisions you make about the ‘look’ of your wedding, remember how important it is to stay true to yourself. You want to feel like yourself and look like yourself on your big day – and be comfortable in your own skin.

Consider these descriptions of style: laid-back, timeless, offbeat, eclectic, contemporary, clean, antique, elegant, rustic, charming – and any combination of those words.

Don’t forget that the ceremony is the heart and soul of your day, so be sure to explore that with your officiant to include those personal touches as well.  Have I mentioned that before? J Thanking family, personal vows, sharing stories about your journey, any of these can be incorporated into almost any wedding ceremony.

Break a few rules. Brides don’t have to wear white! Mix up your bridesmaids and groomsmen, or as I prefer to call them – attendants – having women and men standing with whichever partner they are connected to; or sort them any way you wish.

Here in the Poconos rustic is always a good fit, and combining it with elegant works well. There are countless ideas for the rustic weddings. To name two I like: using an old canoe or rowboat to put your drinks in, and using burlap trimmed with lace for table runners. And while we’re talking about tables, consider the long family-style for seating at a meal. Choose natural flowers, in wild loose arrangements. Use vintage bottles for centerpieces.

Perhaps you prefer a more formal and timeless style. You can never go wrong with a black and white theme. Tuxedoes never go out of style.

Maybe like me, you love all of the above! All kinds of styles appeal to you. How do you narrow it down? Pinterest (yes, it’s still a thing) can help you with this. Collect the ideas you love and see which ones keep coming up again and again. Think about what the style says about your lives? Are you and your fiancé outdoorsy people? Do you love getting dressed up or are you always in jeans?

Don’t give into the temptations that weddings can present. Don’t think you must wear, say, or do something that doesn’t suit you. I have seen many couples look uncomfortable in their very formal wedding clothes and hairstyles. Perhaps that’s why so many men are now pairing sneakers with their suits, or jeans with shirts, ties and vests. I’d like to see more brides wearing gowns that are comfortable and flattering, and I think the trend is going in that direction.

Take the time to enjoy the process, work with your partner and family to make decisions that take everyone’s needs into consideration. If you are having a big wedding, then you need to think big picture. Will your plans inconvenience people, will it be too expensive for people you care about to attend? Are you putting too many expectations on yourself and your friends?

Be considerate and be generous. Share the love. This big day is the start of something big, start it off right. When your wedding style comes from within, it comes out right!

THANK YOU Lisa Rhinehart for all the gorgeous photos. Lisa was chosen as one of the top 50 wedding photographers world-wide.




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    Lois Heckman

    Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: ... Read Full
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