In good times or bad…

A great venue!

One of the best things about being a Celebrant is working with wonderful couples who love each other and see good things in the future. But how do we reconcile love and goodness, when bad things happen around us?

It’s helpful to remember that people have tied the knot during wartime, through military deployments, through sickness and separation, and all sorts of adversity. People fell in love in the Warsaw ghetto and under fire in Kosovo. And of course, like my parents, many couples married before their husbands deployed during WWII. Love finds a way.

If you are someone struggling with the state of the world, it can be difficult to remember there is goodness, too. And yet, people still fall in love, and that is a beautiful thing. It might raise the question: is a big wonderful wedding appropriate? I say: yes! Celebrate love!

As in most things in life, it’s all about balance. You can be concerned with the state of the world, and you can give yourself permission to have a wonderful wedding celebration.

Here’s are few ideas you may find inspiring to combine a desire for a better world, with the indulgence of a wedding.

A view with meaning.

Consider dedicating a shower, engagement party, or even a part of your wedding to a cause that is close to your heart. Choose groups that represent your values, but be sure it is something all of your guests can get behind.

Find a venue that does good in your community, such as a library, the “Y”, or a social service agency that has a space you can rent. I know this is a difficult one, but it is possible. They may be surprised, but welcome your financial contribution, and the attention you draw to their cause.

Include some words about your views on life in the ceremony and through your choice of favors. There are countless quotes and inspirational sources to reflect your values. Or perhaps include a promise to help make a better world along with your promise (your vow) to each other.

Choose small local businesses for your vendors. There are some companies like Give that create delicious goodies and are socially and environmentally conscious. Or Tom’s Shoes – they provide shoes, water, and other services to people in need – so be sure to pick some up for your attendants.

And instead of a gift registry, have a charity registry, or include it along with the gift options.

There are many websites that address eco and sustainable weddings, but I’m proposing more than that. I recently found Blacksheepbride.com who have a searchable database for what they call ‘do-gooder’ vendors, although it’s not exactly Pocono oriented.

Be bold, be honest, speak out. I’m not suggesting you turn your wedding into a political rally (although that could be cool). There is a time and place for everything, and a wedding can be a place to include your perspective. Getting married is one of life’s most important milestones, therefore it is worthy of your deepest deliberation.

                THANK YOU Lisa Rhinehart for all the gorgeous photos. 

 

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    Lois Heckman

    Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: ... Read Full
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