500 and still going

This marks my 500th column for Pocono Wedding Talk. I can hardly believe it myself. People often ask me how I continue to come up with topics to explore. The answer is, I don’t know. I ask myself: why keep writing? I do have an answer to that. It is because I love being a celebrant and offering my little alternative perspective on the world of weddings. If this column has helped a few people over the years, that would make me extremely happy.

Because of the nature of weddings, I’m guessing that readers of this space come and go. If you’re about to be married, your children are about to be married, or your friends are about to be married, you may be more passionate about the topic of weddings at a particular time in your life. Thank you for checking this out.

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But I’ve also had people tell me that although they are not involved in a wedding, they still read the column. Thank you to those people, too.

After 500 articles, I can’t say I haven’t revisited topics, or even from time to time reposted a column or two, especially one of my all-time favorites about wedding programs. I sometimes send that column to couples I’m working with, when I received an email from them asking for ‘the order of service.’ I know they want to do a program and likely intend to outline the ceremony. To which I advise – please don’t do that. This perennial column offers alternatives.

Other favorite topics over the years include talking about the emergence of LGBT weddings. The time frame for this column coincided with the legal battles for the right of gay people to marry and the ultimate win. Now-a-days gay weddings are just … well, weddings. Still, it was exciting to be on the cusp of change, and to be on the right side of history.

Another topic I enjoy writing about comes in many forms, in fact, it is the very theme, or sub-text, for much of this space –  it is how to be true to yourself when planning your wedding festivities.

Photo: Garth Woods

When travelling to other countries I always research their wedding traditions and have had a lot of fun writing about that. From Norway, to Portugal and Spain, to Morocco to Scotland and the UK, I’ve learned a lot about how other countries celebrate their marriage rites. And the many unusual and cool rituals from places I’ve never been – those have been explored, too. Customs and traditions are kind of my ‘thing.’ I’ve also written about weddings I’ve created, especially those that are a little out-of-the-ordinary. People always ask about that.

Religious, spiritual or secular is another topic I delve into often. The differing beliefs people hold can cause turmoil when trying to navigate the rite of passage that is a wedding. I hope I can help sort that out.

Remarriage, whether after the death of a spouse or a divorce, is another meaningful subject, along with including children in the ceremony in more meaningful ways.

You can always scroll back through columns either on the Pocono Record website, or on my website, if you are looking for a specific topic. And if there’s something you’d like me to think about, and write about, I’d love to hear from you.

Thanks to my current editor Ashley who does a great job and the Pocono Record for allowing me to be myself. And of course, 500 thanks to readers of these articles. I, too, benefit from the writing process. It keeps me engaged and continuing to develop my own thinking as a celebrant, and at my, let’s say, mature age, keeps my brain in gear.



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