One to Remember

Your special, lucky wedding date

There are many reasons an engaged couple chooses a specific date for their wedding. They might think of the time of year, the season they prefer, and zero in on a date. Then, when they have found the location, they might discover their chosen date is not available and accept another. It helps to be flexible with that. But sometimes one’s heart is set on a specific date, for any number of reasons.

Numbers themselves can be interesting. There are those ‘lucky number’ dates. In the past, I officiated on 1/6/16 and 1/7/17, and other especially interesting sounding numbers. Some of the quirky numbers this year would be: 1/8/18 (already past), but 8/1/18 sounds good, or 8/18/18 maybe. I just booked 10/10/2020. Yikes!

Seven is considered a lucky number, maybe because there are seven seas, seven heavens (or seventh heaven), seven continents, seven colors in a rainbow, seven days in a week, the seven wonders of the world, and so on.

In Chinese culture the numbers 68 and 9 are generally considered to be auspicious, while 4 and 7 are not, so there goes that seven. The Chinese believe double digits are extra lucky and number 8 has long been regarded as the luckiest number because it sounds like the word for ‘fortune,’ and so it will bring good fortune and prosperity.

In Jewish numerology, known as ‘gematria’- the number 18 stands for “life”, because the Hebrew letters that spell chai meaning ‘life’ or ‘living,’ add up to 18. You have probably heard the expression ‘L-Chaim’ as a toast, which means ‘to life!’  Thirty-six is important for a couple because 2×18=36, representing “two lives”.

Once I started looking into this more, I discovered, not surprisingly, that almost every culture or country has their own special numbers. A very interesting example is 666, which is supposed to symbolize ‘the beast’ or the Devil, so is unlucky in USA, UK, Brazil, or any predominately Christian country. But I was surprised to learn that in China, 666 can mean “everything going smoothly” and is often be seen in neon or on store signs. Perhaps like our ’10-4’ from the CB radio days.
Obviously, there are other and probably more important considerations besides numerology when choosing your date! You may consider it lucky to simply get the date you chose at the venue you chose. I’ve often heard from couples that they were surprised that their preferred location was booked up so far in advance.

Last minute weddings are fine, but you’d better be flexible. I’ve had a few on weekdays for that very reason. Speaking of off –peak, it’s true that many resorts and hotels have a slightly discounted price for Fridays and Sundays. I don’t see anything wrong with having your wedding then, and if it helps you be where you want to be, or helps your budget, all the better. Just remember to consider guests who are travelling to be with you when planning your schedule.

Most people do not choose a holiday weekend, but then again, some couples deliberately choose holidays. I married two military members who chose the 4th of July weekend, and we created a celebration that reflected not only their love for each other, but their love of country.

I’ve officiate weddings on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day and included something to honor that. I made sure to recognize all the mothers (or fathers) who were attending. One wedding on Mother’s Day involved the bride giving a rose to every mom attending. That was beautiful.

Another good example of a holiday wedding is a Christmas time wedding, offering all kinds of opportunities for décor and other themed ideas.

Would you get married on your birthday, or your partners birthday? Probably not, you might get short changed with presents for the rest of your life. On the other hand, its one less date to remember. I’m kidding…. sort of.

What about someone else’s anniversary? Usually having your anniversary coincide with a parent or sibling’s anniversary isn’t the best idea, but I can imagine circumstances where it would work. If you have an especially excellent relationship and talk to the other couple first and they agree, why not? More appropriate perhaps, is a grandparents’ anniversary date.

Whatever date you choose, it will be YOUR date and one to remember.

 

     Thank you Lisa Rhinehart for the use of your wonderful photography

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