Eight ideas for Letting Go

How do you let go of the things that do not matter? This is a big question in life, but I am, however, just going to talk about it in relation to weddings.

All you really need to get married is a marriage license and someone to officiate the “I dos” and sign the license – not including, of course, a loving partner! Everything else is an extra. Those extras can keep adding up until the wedding becomes something larger than life.

I am not advocating you skip customs or traditions that mean something to you, but just reminding people that there are a few things you can trim from the ‘to-do’ list, and trim down the stress. Letting go is easier said than done, but here are a few suggestions of things you could let go of,if you wish.

Eliminating some of these non-essentials can save you time, money and aggravation! Here are some wedding extras that could be skipped:

1. Wedding Program – if you are just listing the ‘order of service’ you are wasting time and paper. This type of program only encourages people to check off items as the ceremony progresses and leaves nothing for a surprise. Let the ceremony unfold naturally.

2. Favors – Have you ever received a favor at a wedding that meant anything to you, that you used, saved, or enjoyed? No? Me neither.

3. Bouquets for mothers – Don’t know where this idea came from, but why are moms now carrying bouquets? Corsages are more than enough – and please be aware that many dresses do not take well to pinning something to them. Do you like those wrist corsages? No. Me neither.

4. Fancy ring box – not needed. Enough said.

5. A dinner menu on the table – definitely not needed.

6. Robes for bridesmaids – nice and quite the indulgence….but…although this is a very nice as a gift for your ‘girls’, don’t have them embroidered with your name and/or wedding date, or even ‘bridesmaid,’ if you expect the women to use them in the future.

7. Chair decorations – are not necessary and can even make the room too fussy. You can save some time and money skipping this one. Unless the chairs are beat-up and need covers, then by all means cover them. You may just want to decorate the newlywed’s chairs instead.

8. And here is a really radical idea – do not have attendants, you know – bridesmaids and groomsmen. I know people totally expect this, but it really isn’t necessary. Explain to your friends and family you don’t want to have to choose between them all, who will be the ‘best’ man or woman, and who gets to stand with you. And think about how keeping it simple makes a statement – that the wedding is about the two of you. Eliminating attendants isn’t for most people, but is does eliminate a lot of stress and saves money, too.

I don’t want to come off as negative, but I do want to remind you that although any of these things can be WONDERFUL to include, you certainly do not needthem. If your wedding planning is getting out of hand, ask yourself what you can let go of, and then do it. Take a breath and remember why you’re getting married. Then pop the champagne! Don’t let go of that!

 

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