The FUNdamentals of Weddings

A wedding is such a joyous time, having elements that are fun or whimsical, even in the ceremony, can be appropriate – in the right proportion. While getting married is no joke, it is a time of happiness.  And it’s certainly not a competition; having the ‘best’ wedding in comparison to your friends and family should not be the goal. But having memorable elements can add so much, but only if they reflect something real about who you are.

I was thinking about some of the fun elements I’ve been a part of and want to share some of them today.

Entrances and exits are always an opportunity for something special. Instead of ‘just’ bubbles for the recessional get some bubble ‘guns’ for a bigger, better bubbly cloud to walk through. Likewise, confetti cannons for the end of the ceremony were a huge hit in a wedding I officiated. 

Another great exit was from a couple who married right by a lake. After I pronounced them, they paddled away, followed by their photographer in another  boat. They didn’t stay out too long, but it was just a cool way to ‘recess’ since they love boating and being on the lake was important to them.

Photo: Garth Woods

You can enter or exit in a golf cart or on horseback , in a carriage or on a motorcycle. I had a groom who was a firefighter who, yes he did – had his company bring a rig and the couple exited on the big red truck – but not before lots of photos.

Singing your vows – great for musicians! Or, along the same vein, how about a  short sing-along for the ceremony or reception. We sing in church and synagogue,  why not at a wedding? It won’t be easy figuring out the logistics, but it could be amazing. It’s clearly not for most people, but for that especially musical gathering it could work well.  I’ve incorporated something like this twice. One was for a wedding of a music teacher who enlisted her students as a sort of ‘Greek chorus’ within the ceremony. I created cues for them to follow – and they sang short segments of songs that related to the script. Another couple I worked with were part of the New York City theater scene, actors, and such, and I presented their ceremony in ‘acts.’ Act One – they meet, Act Two – falling in love, etc. You get the idea. And while speaking of music and theater – I have officiated on stage, in several theaters, and that can be very dramatic! 

Photo: Marco Caldron

I recently wrote about traditional clothing ideas, but instead of traditional, what about elements of a superhero (think: superman T-shirt under your shirt) or other references to your comic book or gamer side, such as the Star Trek communication device pinned onto your clothing. Speaking of nerdy things: a saber sword arch to walk through after being pronounced is a great homage to Star Wars. And more geeky ideas include quotes from your favorite sources, whether Game of Thrones, Lord of the Ringsor even Harry Potter.

For Dr. Who fans – have your rings in a miniature ‘TARDIS’ – if you don’t know what that is – this idea is not for you! 

And as a proponent of ritual, here are a few unusual ones I’ve worked with: putting together the final pieces of a puzzle as a unity symbol. Yes, the couple did that right within the ceremony.  I had a couple who made sangria together as a ritual act – it really meant something to them so why not? And twice I’ve been excited to be a part of the German tradition of sawing the log. Materials needed: two saw horses, a two-person saw, a log.

And one wedding the couple had their grandmothers as ‘flower girls,’ or in their case ‘flower women.’ 

Don’t forget about adorable cake toppers. 

Having your pets involved is tricky but always great, especially for photos.

Photo: Cassie Castella

Some of the funniest things I enjoy are stories. When I share an unusual or amusing tale about the couple (with their approval, of course) it elicits lots of loving laughter.

I’m sure there are countless ideas out there in the universe. The trick is to find or create one that really represents you. If it doesn’t, just skip it.

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