Author Archives: Lois Heckman

Lois Heckman

Lois Heckman is a certified Humanist and Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: and follow her on Pinterest, and google+

Wedding Whimsy

During difficult times, a few laughs are helpful. I was thinking about how I add a little touch of humor in wedding ceremonies and thought I’d share some of that. I never want to laugh at anyone, so I won’t be writing about any of that “wedding fail” type stuff; to be honest, I hate that entire genre. […]

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Weddings are Back… I Think

There is no hierarchy of grief, mourning or sadness. Everyone is entitled to their feelings even if others have had worse things happen. Certainly, the death of a loved one doesn’t compare to your wedding being postponed – but you are still allowed to be upset about the disruption of something you planned and dreamed about for a long time.

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Infusing A Social Message into Your Wedding

I’m going to write about weddings today, I promise, but first a little story. Once, when I wrote a letter to the editor on a political issue, I got a comment telling me to stay in my lane. The person said I should stick to writing about weddings and shut up about other things. More […]

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Weddings in the Time of Covid

I am happy to have a break from writing Pocono Wedding Talk – the COVID information that is provided by the Pocono Record is so much more important, and it seems frivolous to write about weddings, especially since they are mostly cancelled now anyway. But it’s been about a month since I wrote a column […]

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As of 3/17 we’re taking a break – the Pocono Record will be using the space to accommodate the USA Today Network “Nation’s Health” section. Scroll back and visit the hundreds of blogs I’ve written over the years, or search for a topic that interests you.

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Everything’s Canceled, What Do We Do?

Talk about wedding stress! This is not a crisis over a dress or flowers. The Coronavirus has caused the cancellation of countless events. What if it’s your wedding? For that matter what if another emergency came up that puts your special event into question. What do you do? How would you handle that? It is […]

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It’s All About the Numbers

If you believe in this sort of thing, the number seven is a very spiritual number. It is associated with intuition, mysticism, inner wisdom, and seeking truth. Numerology is a belief in the mystical relationship between a number and coinciding events or characteristics. It often involves taking the numerical value of letters in words or names […]

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Unplug it on National Day of Unplugging (and Other Important Times)

Some topics are worthy of revisiting. This is one of them. And before you assume this is about weddings – it is about so much more. It seems like everyone is connected to a device today, usually a smart phone. I realize that I, too, waste way too much time on the internet. It’s a […]

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Weddings: Is There Anything New?

I’ve been writing Pocono Wedding Talk since 2006. It amazes me that I haven’t revisited certain topics more often. As times change, I sometimes see the need to update my views and pass that on to the reader. If I’ve written about something more than once it’s because I believe we all need reminding of […]

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Under My Umbrella

How to incorporate this every-day item into your wedding ceremony I want to talk about umbrellas, because they actually have many interesting cultural connections and surprising ritual uses. We know umbrellas shelter us from the wind, rain or even the sunshine, so they are ripe for symbolic representation. A cool French tradition involves the newlywed couple […]

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