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Lois Heckman

Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: LoisHeckman.com and follow her on Pinterest, pinterest.com/celebrantlois and google+

Do you really need a wedding program or booklet?

About every year or so I tweak and repost this column. Why? Because almost everyone planning a wedding eventually comes to this question: should I have a ceremony program? As the big day approaches, I sometimes hear from ‘my’ couples, asking for the ‘order of service.’ I immediately know why. They are creating a program [...]

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Spanish Wedding Traditions

As a wedding officiant my busy time is spring, summer and fall, so I take a vacation in winter. As you read this, I’m in Spain, and naturally I wanted to do some research on Spanish weddings. The region I’m visiting is Andalucía and some call it’s the ‘real’ Spain because the traditions are so [...]

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Wedding Trends for 2019

At the turn of the calendar I join ranks with columnists and bloggers everywhere in writing about what happened last year and what is expected to happen in the coming year. So here goes – from the superficial to the important -  wedding trends to look for in 2019. I’m reading a lot about wedding dresses [...]

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Ringing in the New Year

As I look back on my 14thyear as a celebrant I am struck by how it continues to be such a fulfilling experience. I’ve had many diverse work experiences in my life, from music to social services, as well as politics – hey I’m old!  But being a part of the happiest day in someone’s life [...]

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Considering a Christmas Wedding

Remember, however, when you chose to have a wedding at Christmas, you might be asking your guests to give up time they would rather spend at home with their immediate families. Are they willing to sacrifice their own traditions to be with you?

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Vendors or ‘Friendors’ ?

There is a growing trend in weddings of having a friend provide a service that would normally require hiring a professional. There are many reasons this happens and many pros and cons. I’ve been involved with almost 1,000 weddings at this point, and I possess powers of observation, so I thought it time to comment. [...]

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Sami Weddings and other traditions

I recently wrote about expectations for my Arctic/Northern Lights trip. I’m back now and have some cool things to report. Unfortunately, I did not get to see the aurora – there are no guarantees you will see the phenomena, and that’s just how it goes sometimes. But I did have some other wonderful experiences, and [...]

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An arctic wedding anyone?

Unusual wedding destinations are always a hot topic. As you read this, I’m on my way to the arctic to try to see the Northern Lights. I can’t help but imagine how magical it would be to have a wedding with the aurora borealislighting the sky. We can certainly file that under unique venues! Locations for [...]

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The Power of Music

Whatever you select for ceremony music, it will add beauty and joy to your wedding day. Aldous Huxley said, ‘After silence, that which comes nearest to expressing the inexpressible is music.’

And Leonard Bernstein wisely said: ‘Music can name the un-nameable and communicate the unknowable.’

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I do, do you? Three essential elements of a wedding ceremony.

It is commonly accepted practice (although it is not the law) that there are three elements a wedding ceremony should contain: The asking, the vows, and the pronouncement. Signing the marriage license another piece of the puzzle, of course, and truly the only legallyrequired part, at least in Pennsylvania, where I practice. Personally, I would never [...]

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