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Lois Heckman

Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: LoisHeckman.com and follow her on Pinterest, pinterest.com/celebrantlois and google+

Spotlight on Grooms

So much focus is put on women and weddings. Maybe too much, really – focus that becomes pressure, stress and unrealistic expectation. Remember that men, too, are almost always part of the occasion and equation, and too often not given enough thought. Time to look at the men-folk again! Before I get to all the [...]

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Should You Accommodate Difficult Guests?

The concept of the dysfunctional family has become a bit of a joke, with everyone declaring their family is ‘not normal.’ And what is ‘normal’ anyway? But for those with severe problems, it’s no joke! Whether it’s addiction, mental health, or developmental issues, there are probably people in our lives who have circumstances that may [...]

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2018 Wedding Trends… who cares?

What are the trends we can expect for 2018 weddings? One of them is something I’ve been advocating for a long time: unusual forms of entertainment for your guests. A friend of mine, DJ Adam Skuba, has the latest cool craze to replace the photo booth – the Magic Mirror. It is an interactive experience [...]

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Year-end highlights

It’s practically obligatory for columnists to do their year-end column or wrap-up. And then there’s the one about coming trends. I am not going buck those traditions! Here are some reflections on weddings I’ve officiated this past year, as we say goodbye to 2017. From intimate elopements and micro-weddings at my own ceremony site, Harmony [...]

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In good times or bad…

One of the best things about being a Celebrant is working with wonderful couples who love each other and see good things in the future. But how do we reconcile love and goodness, when bad things happen around us? It’s helpful to remember that people have tied the knot during wartime, through military deployments, through [...]

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Another look at the Knot

Did you ever wonder where they expression ‘tying the knot’ came from?  I thought I’d take a good closer look at the ancient ritual that inspired the well-known phrase. There are a few different explanations of this Celtic ritual, also called handfasting. The basic action is simply using rope, cloth, or ribbons, to wrap (sometimes [...]

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Navigating the complexities of interfaith weddings


I perform quite a few interfaith wedding ceremonies. Finding someone versed in this can be difficult and I’m proud to say I think I do a great job. But what exactly does this even mean? Many people think of an interfaith wedding as a Jewish/Christian one. But it can be almost any combination. I have [...]

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Wedding Photography – for now and the future

Your wedding is an important story, and we all know weddings can be an expensive undertaking. There are many ways to prioritize your budget. I hope photography is one that is at the top of your list. Even an elopement is worthy of beautiful photographs.

In our digital world everyone can take photos and who doesn’t have thousands of them filling up our hard-drives? I’m here to make the case for hiring a great photographer along with having actual prints made.

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The Bride Wore Black - Breaking with Tradition

I write often about reimagining traditions, and switching things up. There are almost no rules regarding weddings. What few rules there are, I’ll explain in a minute. But as to breaking the rules – here’s a great example: brides – you do know you don’t have to wear white, right? So many of our wedding [...]

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Some sweet things that are not cake!

Some of the sweetest moments in weddings I’ve officiated did not come from the mind of me – but from the couples’ themselves. That is the beauty of celebrant work – it’s about listening to those we represent and making sure they are heard. At each ceremony, I consider myself their voice. I create a [...]

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