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Lois Heckman

Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: LoisHeckman.com and follow her on Pinterest, pinterest.com/celebrantlois and google+

The Bride Wore Black - Breaking with Tradition

I write often about reimagining traditions, and switching things up. There are almost no rules regarding weddings. What few rules there are, I’ll explain in a minute. But as to breaking the rules – here’s a great example: brides – you do know you don’t have to wear white, right? So many of our wedding [...]

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Some sweet things that are not cake!

Some of the sweetest moments in weddings I’ve officiated did not come from the mind of me – but from the couples’ themselves. That is the beauty of celebrant work – it’s about listening to those we represent and making sure they are heard. At each ceremony, I consider myself their voice. I create a [...]

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Military Weddings – I salute you!

I’ve had the honor of officiating for many service members, active duty, reserve or veteran. When speaking with the engaged person (most often a man, but I’ve had several women service members, too) I also ask them about their families. It’s not uncommon that those serving are following in the footsteps of parents and/or grandparents. [...]

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The Art of Wedding

. The details you choose reflect something about who you are. When making financial choices, ask yourself: why do I want this, why do I need this, and what does it say about us? When choosing how to marry, who will officiate, do the same. Is a wedding a display, or is it something more?

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What’s Love Got To Do With It?

I’ve been officiating weddings and writing about them for a long time now. I have a simple topic today, one that we think is at the heart of it all. Why get married? In our modern world couples can live together and raise families without being married. The stigma of ‘out-of-wedlock’ is, for the most, [...]

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A Hodge-Podge of Some Fun, Funky and Fabulous Wedding Ideas

May I be frivolous for one column? I’m told I’m too serious sometimes, so I set out to look for some new wedding ideas. Is it even possible? With so much written about weddings, could I find something I hadn’t seen before? I’m not claiming these are unheard of, or ground breaking… but they do [...]

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When The Divorce Doesn’t Work Out

When a couple has rekindled their spark, found understanding, and if they value what they had as a couple, then re-marrying could be right. Maybe they acted too quickly when they divorced, and often times they say they never really stopped loving one another.

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When Style Comes from Within, It Comes Out Right.

Fashion comes and goes, but love never goes out of style. Your wedding celebration can reflect the timelessness of love and marriage combined with your own personal taste. ‘Style’ is defined as a manner of doing or presenting things, especially a fashionable one. And whatever your style, whatever decisions you make about the ‘look’ of [...]

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Let Us Eat Cake

So many wedding traditions have long histories, and interesting origins. Bouquets, rings, and white wedding gowns… they all come from somewhere, and I’ve written about a lot of it. Today I take on cake. Our classic tradition of serving cake for weddings comes from two different sources. First Ancient Rome – one of the prime [...]

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Engaging Thoughts

How can you get through the gauntlet of questions? If you or someone you know has recently become engaged, I hope this column brings awareness that will help prepare someone for the coming tide of inquiry. Then you can decide what information you are ready to share, and just plead the 5th for the rest of them.

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