Author Archives: Lois Heckman

Going right to the source – a Russian wedding

I often write about different cultural and religious traditions, and many couples like to dive into their family roots for inspiration. Recently I created a ceremony that connected directly to the source. Here’s what happened: I was fortunate to have a young Russia and the Ukrainian couple choose me as their celebrant. Politically Russia and [...]

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Great Expectations!

Many couples decide to tie-the-knot because they are expecting a child. Once upon a time this was shameful, but fortunately that is no longer true. Having a baby is a splendid reason to get married, not something to hide. It is cause for celebration, double celebration, in fact.

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Smooth Sailing for a Calm Wedding Day

I hereby issue a small storm warning, storms you can avoid on your wedding day!  Some storms are big, and some are small, but they all matter in their own way. There is so much wedding advice floating around the internet, not to mention from your family and well-intentioned friends. Here are a few of [...]

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Free yourself from Family Drama and Dysfunction

When it comes to your wedding, it can be truly that – YOUR wedding. But how is this possible if there are complex family issues? Everyone has some family drama. I’m reminded of a cartoon depicting a large auditorium with a sign over the stage reading: Functional Family Convention, with one lonely person sitting in the [...]

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Vows among the bow-wows!!!

There’s a new puppy in my life. Louie is 12 weeks old now and a ton of fun, joy, and work. There’s no doubt about it, I’m a dog person. Louie brings our total to three fantastic English Springer Spaniels. So I figured this was a good time to talk about dogs in weddings. I [...]

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Your Guests Will Thank You

More bliss, less bugs: Some tips for a sweet summer ceremony. Summer’s here, in all its glory, and it’s a beautiful time for weddings. But it is a good idea to be prepared for all the season brings, including extreme heat. Be sure to let your guests know what to expect as well. I’ll only [...]

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It’s all in the tea…

Around the world couples are exploring their cultural traditions and blending elements of East and West in new ways, and the Chinese Tea Ceremony is both ancient and important. I have only had an opportunity to work with a few Chinese-American brides or grooms, and of those only two have ever chosen to have a [...]

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Small Weddings, Big Ideas

There’s a lot of talk lately about small weddings, or as some like to call them, micro-weddings, or tiny weddings, or my favorite: intimate weddings. And there are many reasons couples are choosing to go small, and they mirror the reasons couples choose to elope. Now, that’s a small wedding! One motive is simply to [...]

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Giving Meaning to the Moment

Don’t be afraid to tweak or omit ceremonial traditions. Wedding traditions come and go, evolve and change. There are some staples most  would probably never want to forgo – in both ceremony and celebration. I would never advocate leaving out the “I do” part of the ceremony (and in some states, it’s a legal requirement). [...]

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The path to an honest ceremony

Customs, values, mores and traditions… they all change over time. If we didn’t expand our horizons, we’d still be living in caves. For some people the tradition of marrying in a house of worship is absolutely the way they want and need for their wedding ceremony. And that is great, if that is who you [...]

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    Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: ... Read Full
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