Author Archives: Lois Heckman

Exploring Some African and African American Wedding Traditions

I’ve written about and performed the well-known and beloved African American wedding ritual of ‘jumping the broom.’ Just to recap, it comes from the time when slaves, who were not allowed to marry, created their own rituals. It is a debate among scholars as to whether the custom was brought from Africa or created here, […]

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Why Ceremony Matters

Creating ceremonies is what I do, and every once in a while it’s good to stop and remember why. To my way of thinking, there are three really big transitions in life: birth, death and marriage. Every culture and religion, all around the world, has different ways to honor these milestones. Momentous occasions are honored […]

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Two Native American Inspired Rituals

Last week I wrote about a hand warming ceremony – an idea I came up with on a cold day. Another winter inspired ritual is a ‘blanket ceremony.’ It comes from a Native American tradition.  Blanket Ritual In the original, traditional Native American ceremony each partner is wrapped in separate, blue blankets. Then the officiant […]

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Breath is Life – A Winter Warming Ritual

Winter is a time when I hunker down. This is probably true for many people. Since weddings are few and far between, at least in our part of the world, the cold weather keeps me indoors, and provides lots of time to think and write. So I was thinking: on a cold day have you […]

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Gift to the Future – The Importance of Wedding Photography

There are two framed photos that grace the walls of my home – my parents wedding and my husband’s parents wedding. I treasure these and enjoy them immensely. They are the World War II generation and both our fathers are wearing their uniforms. These photos tell quite a story. Your wedding is an important story, […]

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Weddings in Sicily

Every winter I take a vacation abroad, and I always try to crash a wedding if possible. Preparing in advance I want to learn about the local traditions. This year it’s Sicily, and as you read this I’m there right now! As I studied up on their wedding traditions I’ve learned that for Sicilians, a […]

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You’re Engaged… Now What?

Christmas is a popular time for proposals. A ring does make a wonderful surprise gift. If you just became engaged, sit back and enjoy the feeling for a minute, because it won’t be long before everything starts spinning, and hopefully not out of control.  If you haven’t told anyone yet, please tell your immediate family […]

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Wedding Trends 2020, do they matter?

As the new year approaches, bloggers and opinion makers of all stripes give their predictions and advice for the coming year. I will attempt to add to the cacophony. But having said that, I’m not a fan of following what the latest fashionistas tell us; on the other hand, there are good ideas that come up every […]

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Exploring Rituals for the Holiday Season

With the holiday season upon us – I’m taking a break from wedding talk today… but there is a connection. It’s something I write about often: ritual. And what could be more ritualistic than Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Solstice, or New Year’s Eve?  From the more secular parts of the celebrations, such as the Christmas tree and […]

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Life (and weddings) do not always go as planned.

Did you miss me? When I opened the paper Sunday morning there was no Pocono Wedding Talk  and I was stunned. After over a dozen years of writing this column something happened last week. I forgot to submit one. Blame it on the Thanksgiving holiday week, which no doubt threw off my routine, blame it on my […]

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