Author Archives: Lois Heckman

‘Rockin’ the Boat’

Dance the Night Away – Dance Traditions From Around the World. I’ve been watching a charming series on Netflix, Derry Girls, which takes place in Derry (Londonderry) Northern Ireland, and is set in the 1990’s. During a scene involving a wedding, the DJ plays the song Rock the Boatand everyone immediately rushes to the dance floor. They […]

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You’re doing WHAT for your wedding?

Last week I wrote about the sixties and how that era ushered in more self-expression, which, in turn affected weddings. I often write about doing things a little differently, how your wedding can be uniquely you. But what does the mean exactly? Beyond, say, unique signage or cool guest books, interesting décor… can you imagine […]

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Woodstock Weddings

How the festival and the summer of love continues to influence weddings. There’s been a lot of attention to the Woodstock Music festival on its 50thanniversary. As a baby boomer myself, although I wasn’t at Woodstock (I was hitch-hiking around Europe – how’s that for a hippie move?) I was a part of the era, […]

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‘Pup’tial Bliss

Dogs and Weddings – Two Wonderful Things. If you’re a dog person and you’re planning a wedding, I’ll bet you’ve thought about having your pup or pups involved. So many dog-loving couples think about their fur baby walking down the aisle. But can it happen? Maybe. Before you take that leap there are several obstacles […]

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Six things you need to know about weddings – Number 3 will amaze you

Did that headline grab you? It’s called click-bate. And while I do have things to share with you about weddings, I don’t want to trick you into reading. Too much of what passes for information is merely a means to make money, one way or another. But the catchy title does beg the question: what […]

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The open-ended Beauty of Spirituality

Spiritual. This is how many people describe their beliefs. But what exactly does this mean? Literally, spiritual means ‘relating to things of the human spirit rather than material or physical things.’ But in a more religious context it can mean a wide range of ideas. For some it means they embrace the idea that there […]

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God’s Knot and other Unity Rituals

While it’s usually me suggesting the ideas, and that is, after all, my job – from time to time couples come to me with a request for a specific ritual for their wedding ceremony. Perhaps they saw or read about it somewhere.  There are many ways to find  this stuff, especially on the internet, whether Pinterest, Instagram […]

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Timing is Everything for your Wedding Day

Today’s column concerns something very practical, with two issues related to timing because, as they say, ‘timing is everything.’  The concerns are: the gap between the ceremony and reception, and the time involved in a receiving line. Both of these topics impact your guests’ experience because standing around doing nothing is not fun. If you […]

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What is the UU? Who are Unitarians?

After writing this column for many years, sometimes I feel as if I’ve already written about every religion and cultural tradition, but of course that’s not possible. Not even close.According to some estimates there are roughly 4,200 religions and 195 countries in the world. That should keep me going! But I try to focus on traditions and cultures that […]

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Advice for a better ceremony experience

I don’t alwayswrite about religion, ritual and culture, although I find it so fascinating. This is, after all, a wedding column and in that spirit I have advice to offer. These suggestions are based on officiating countless weddings, and the focus here is on the ceremony, my area of expertise – so here goes: Guests: don’t […]

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