When discussing weddings, I say it all the time: ‘do what’s right for you.’ There are certainly a lot of traditions and rules for weddings, and I do love history, culture, customs and most everything about weddings. But I don’t subscribe to the idea of doing something just because that’s ‘how it’s done.’ From the [...]
The spice ritual is pretty easy to understand – you simply choose different spices to represent the different people participating – in this case the bride and groom and their children. Learning something about each person and finding the herb or spice that related those traits is the key. Poetic license is required, of course.
For every action there’s a reaction. Cause and effect. That’s a simple but weighty concept. And it’s not just science, but in life one event often causes other events to occur. This was the case when I received a call to officiate a wedding that was to take place the very next weekend. The cause [...]
It is thought that about 65% of the proceeds from the world’s diamond mines are used to fuel wars. These are called conflict diamonds….But don’t despair. There are many ethical choices, although I suppose one can never be completely sure. But we can at least try to make better choices. Here are a few ideas.
My horizons continue to expand with every wedding I officiate, and recently I officiated for a wonderful couple who created a celebration with their own personal flare. I want to share how it reflected their personalities and interests in several ways. As patrons of a local theater they decided to use the smaller ‘black box’ [...]
Sometimes I write about big sweeping concepts, sometimes this column is about cultural or religious traditions and rituals, and other times there is just something very specific to look at. Today I want to address what role should a pre-teen can play in your wedding? I’m not referring to the couple’s children, who should have [...]
This is a very personal and emotional topic and everyone is different. I’ve worked with couples who felt they did not want any acknowledgement of deceased loved ones, and those who wanted quite a bit included.
While your wedding day is a joyous day it is also a time of honesty and meaning, so let those feeling in, but in the right measure, in whatever feels best for you.
I’m posting this from Spain today, so I thought it would be a wonderful opportunity to write about some of the many rich, historic traditions for weddings that come from Spanish culture. Most ceremonies in Spain and the wide-ranging Spanish speaking countries of Mexico, Puerto Rico, Central and South America, take place in the Catholic [...]
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Once you do your year in review, it’s only natural to think about what’s coming up in the next year. And inquiring couples want to know – what are the trends for 2015? What the media tells me about weddings, and what my couples are telling me, aren’t necessarily the same things. Perhaps its because [...]
It’s time for those year-end reviews from everyone else, so why not me? Looking back at my celebrant work in 2014 I’d have to put marriage equality in Pennsylvania at the top of my list. It was in May when Governor Corbett decided not to appeal the ruling that the state’s ban on same-sex marriage [...]