Category Archives: Ceremonies and Celebrations

All About Literally Tying the Knot

Most people have heard the expression ‘tying the knot,’ but may not be familiar with the origins of this phrase. Also known as Handfasting, tying the knot is one of the oldest wedding rituals we know. There are many variations and stories about this symbolic act. Here are a few of them: The ancient Celtic [...]

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As you walk your new path, let’s talk about shoes…

I’m a Celebrant, not a wedding planner, and I try to keep this column focused on the big stuff – what’s important in a wedding, and first and foremost that is the couple’s commitment. The union of two people in marriage is expressed through their ceremony. I do, however, stray off-topic from time to time [...]

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Nervous is Natural, Obsessed is Not

I’m not a psychologist nor do I play one on television, but I do have some thoughts about anxiety. Last year I worked with just a few frazzled brides and it got me thinking about the connections between anxiety, anticipation, nervousness and flat out unbecoming behavior. True anxiety is defined as the over-reaction to a [...]

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Enhancing the wedding ceremony with a few easy tips

Today I focus on the ceremony in general. This is the part, you may recall, where two people actual get married. Too often you cannot choose what is said for your ceremony, although this varies greatly depending on the religion, tradition or officiant.  For a ceremony created by a celebrant like myself, of course, the [...]

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Breaking and remaking the rules

When discussing weddings, I say it all the time: ‘do what’s right for you.’ There are certainly a lot of traditions and rules for weddings, and I do love history, culture, customs and most everything about weddings. But I don’t subscribe to the idea of doing something just because that’s ‘how it’s done.’  From the [...]

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How to add spice to your ceremony

The spice ritual is pretty easy to understand – you simply choose different spices to represent the different people participating – in this case the bride and groom and their children. Learning something about each person and finding the herb or spice that related those traits is the key. Poetic license is required, of course.

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A miraculous wedding in a week

For every action there’s a reaction. Cause and effect. That’s a simple but weighty concept. And it’s not just science, but in life one event often causes other events to occur. This was the case when I received a call to officiate a wedding that was to take place the very next weekend. The cause [...]

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The Diamond Dilemma

It is thought that about 65% of the proceeds from the world’s diamond mines are used to fuel wars. These are called conflict diamonds….But don’t despair. There are many ethical choices, although I suppose one can never be completely sure. But we can at least try to make better choices. Here are a few ideas.

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One Wedding – Many Ideas

My horizons continue to expand with every wedding I officiate, and recently I officiated for a wonderful couple who created a celebration with their own personal flare. I want to share how it reflected their personalities and interests in several ways. As patrons of a local theater they decided to use the smaller ‘black box’ [...]

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At that In-Between Age

Sometimes I write about big sweeping concepts, sometimes this column is about cultural or religious traditions and rituals, and other times there is just something very specific to look at. Today I want to address what role should a pre-teen can play in your wedding?  I’m not referring to the couple’s children, who should have [...]

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    Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Follow her on Pinterest, ... Read Full
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