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Breaking and remaking the rules

When discussing weddings, I say it all the time: ‘do what’s right for you.’ There are certainly a lot of traditions and rules for weddings, and I do love history, culture, customs and most everything about weddings. But I don’t subscribe to the idea of doing something just because that’s ‘how it’s done.’  From the [...]

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How to add spice to your ceremony

The spice ritual is pretty easy to understand – you simply choose different spices to represent the different people participating – in this case the bride and groom and their children. Learning something about each person and finding the herb or spice that related those traits is the key. Poetic license is required, of course.

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A miraculous wedding in a week

For every action there’s a reaction. Cause and effect. That’s a simple but weighty concept. And it’s not just science, but in life one event often causes other events to occur. This was the case when I received a call to officiate a wedding that was to take place the very next weekend. The cause [...]

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The Diamond Dilemma

It is thought that about 65% of the proceeds from the world’s diamond mines are used to fuel wars. These are called conflict diamonds….But don’t despair. There are many ethical choices, although I suppose one can never be completely sure. But we can at least try to make better choices. Here are a few ideas.

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One Wedding – Many Ideas

My horizons continue to expand with every wedding I officiate, and recently I officiated for a wonderful couple who created a celebration with their own personal flare. I want to share how it reflected their personalities and interests in several ways. As patrons of a local theater they decided to use the smaller ‘black box’ [...]

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At that In-Between Age

Sometimes I write about big sweeping concepts, sometimes this column is about cultural or religious traditions and rituals, and other times there is just something very specific to look at. Today I want to address what role should a pre-teen can play in your wedding?  I’m not referring to the couple’s children, who should have [...]

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Including A Remembrance in Your Wedding

This is a very personal and emotional topic and everyone is different. I’ve worked with couples who felt they did not want any acknowledgement of deceased loved ones, and those who wanted quite a bit included.
While your wedding day is a joyous day it is also a time of honesty and meaning, so let those feeling in, but in the right measure, in whatever feels best for you.

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Hispanic Wedding Traditions

I’m posting this from Spain today, so I thought it would be a wonderful opportunity to write about some of the many rich, historic traditions for weddings that come from Spanish culture. Most ceremonies in Spain and the wide-ranging Spanish speaking countries of Mexico, Puerto Rico, Central and South America, take place in the Catholic [...]

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Wedding Trends for 2015

Once you do your year in review, it’s only natural to think about what’s coming up in the next year. And inquiring couples want to know – what are the trends for 2015? What the media tells me about weddings, and what my couples are telling me, aren’t necessarily the same things. Perhaps its because [...]

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Considering The Butterfly Release

There are many ways to infuse a variety of meanings into this ritual because butterflies also represent hope, new life, peace, and a connection to nature. Knowing that butterflies go through the process of metamorphosis, serves as excellent symbolism, as does the idea of taking flight.

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