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Wedding Rules for the Digital Age

The unplugged wedding already has a lot of traction. Taking photos, videos and generally playing with your smart phone during a wedding ceremony is just plain rude. Bottom line – don’t let people take photos during the ceremony – leave it to the professionals or designated people. Not only can it ruin the official photos, [...]

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The Joys and Perils of a Small Wedding

Not everyone wants to have a great big wedding. That can be for many reasons. The planning process itself can be quite overwhelming, and I’ve frequently been told that it was more work than imagined. The average number of guests invited to a wedding is 178. I’d call a small wedding anything under 50 guests. [...]

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Navigating Interfaith Weddings

According to the Pew Research Center almost four-in-ten Americans (39%) who have married since 2010 have a spouse who is in a different religious group. I often officiate interfaith weddings – it is one of my favorite types of ceremonies to create. When two (or more) faiths come together, the ceremony needs to blend them in an equal and respectful way.

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Let Us Eat Cake!

Wedding cakes have been around for ages. There is not only history but also symbolism to go along with each slice. Its roots are from the Roman era, when bread was used. The groom would hold the bread over the bride’s head and break off a piece symbolizing her virginal state and his dominance over [...]

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Spring is a time to think about renew of vows

Spring is the time of re-birth and renewal. Nature comes alive again. The days grow longer and we are filled with a spirit of hope. It’s a great time to think about renewing wedding vows. A renewal of vows is a beautiful ritual and can be done at any point in a marriage, but I [...]

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Candles Send a Powerful Message

Candles are used the world over, not simply for light – they have clear and universal symbolism. Unity candles for wedding ceremonies are popular for this very reason, but I don’t get to incorporate them often. That’s because so many ceremonies I officiate are outdoors. Candles outdoors just don’t work very well, and can blow [...]

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Questions and answers for bridesmaids and groomsmen

I want to talk about bridesmaids and groomsmen, but first let’s address the terminology itself. Bridesmaid… you are the ‘maid’ or assistant to the bride, assisting her in all things helping her dress or fetching things. Ok. That’s not horrible – its fun to help out your best girlfriend or sister. Groomsmen. Kind of the [...]

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When and Why to Elope

There are a growing number of couples choosing to elope. Elopement used to mean sneaking away to get married without the parents knowing. It was secretive and hurried.  It didn’t have the best connotation. But today couples choose to elope for good reasons. Some couples elope to avoid conflict. Family can be complicated. I recall [...]

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Revisiting the Green Wedding Trend

Call it ‘green,’ call it ‘environmental,’ call it ‘eco’-friendly,’ or call it common sense, there is still a lot of buzz about how it and how it applies to weddings. I hope people will continue to remain conscious of reducing, reusing and recycling. Eco-friendly isn’t a fad, its way to implement practices that will lead [...]

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Finding your favorite wedding things

A while ago I wrote about wedding traditions I can do without. That was as close to controversial as this column gets. Some people really appreciated my point of view, but a few others did not. Today’s column is about my very favorite wedding things. That should make everyone happy! So here they are: I [...]

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