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Be Prepared for Outdoor Weddings

The Scout Motto is ‘be prepared,’ and that’s exactly what I advocate for outdoor weddings. I am often amazed at how unprepared couples, especially brides, and wedding guests are for an outdoor wedding. Weather is always an important factor in how you will enjoy the outdoor celebration. Too hot, too cold, too much sun in [...]

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The Recessional Toss – Make it Big and Make it Count

Today, people often pick up their tiny little bottles of bubbles just a tad too late. The couple has already headed down the aisle and the moment is gone.

Let’s not let that happen. Here are a few ideas about how to, and what to toss, and make your recessional the best it can be.

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Adding Value to Your Wedding Program

When you think about it, the ‘order of service’ simply encourages people to anticipate what is happening next in the ceremony, even possibly distracting them from what is happening in the present moment. It becomes a checklist to be completed. I believe it is more beautiful to allow the words and actions to unfold.

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All About Literally Tying the Knot

Most people have heard the expression ‘tying the knot,’ but may not be familiar with the origins of this phrase. Also known as Handfasting, tying the knot is one of the oldest wedding rituals we know. There are many variations and stories about this symbolic act. Here are a few of them: The ancient Celtic [...]

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As you walk your new path, let’s talk about shoes…

I’m a Celebrant, not a wedding planner, and I try to keep this column focused on the big stuff – what’s important in a wedding, and first and foremost that is the couple’s commitment. The union of two people in marriage is expressed through their ceremony. I do, however, stray off-topic from time to time [...]

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Nervous is Natural, Obsessed is Not

I’m not a psychologist nor do I play one on television, but I do have some thoughts about anxiety. Last year I worked with just a few frazzled brides and it got me thinking about the connections between anxiety, anticipation, nervousness and flat out unbecoming behavior. True anxiety is defined as the over-reaction to a [...]

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Enhancing the wedding ceremony with a few easy tips

Today I focus on the ceremony in general. This is the part, you may recall, where two people actual get married. Too often you cannot choose what is said for your ceremony, although this varies greatly depending on the religion, tradition or officiant.  For a ceremony created by a celebrant like myself, of course, the [...]

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Breaking and remaking the rules

When discussing weddings, I say it all the time: ‘do what’s right for you.’ There are certainly a lot of traditions and rules for weddings, and I do love history, culture, customs and most everything about weddings. But I don’t subscribe to the idea of doing something just because that’s ‘how it’s done.’  From the [...]

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How to add spice to your ceremony

The spice ritual is pretty easy to understand – you simply choose different spices to represent the different people participating – in this case the bride and groom and their children. Learning something about each person and finding the herb or spice that related those traits is the key. Poetic license is required, of course.

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A miraculous wedding in a week

For every action there’s a reaction. Cause and effect. That’s a simple but weighty concept. And it’s not just science, but in life one event often causes other events to occur. This was the case when I received a call to officiate a wedding that was to take place the very next weekend. The cause [...]

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