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Autumn Holidays are upon us – and ritual will abound

We are coming to the really big season of holidays, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and Hanukkah. I want to talk about the autumn holidays today and I’ll get to the winter holidays another time. Starting with Halloween, also known as All Hallows’ Eve, or All Saints’ Eve. The name itself comes from the All Saints Day celebration of the […]

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Clichés – for better or for worse

We are all familiar with clichés – defined as an overused expression that, while making a point, often gets so stale as to lose its power. One I like is ‘ignorance is bliss,’ which seems to resonate more and more for me today. I really don’t like the message of ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you […]

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Why Elope?

Making the Case for Getting Married on Your Own Terms Over the years I have officiated many elopements. And I return to this subject often because it is so important. There are so many reasons a couple choses to elope and let me review a few of them. First I want to remind us that […]

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‘Rockin’ the Boat’

Dance the Night Away – Dance Traditions From Around the World. I’ve been watching a charming series on Netflix, Derry Girls, which takes place in Derry (Londonderry) Northern Ireland, and is set in the 1990’s. During a scene involving a wedding, the DJ plays the song Rock the Boatand everyone immediately rushes to the dance floor. They […]

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Timing is Everything for your Wedding Day

Today’s column concerns something very practical, with two issues related to timing because, as they say, ‘timing is everything.’  The concerns are: the gap between the ceremony and reception, and the time involved in a receiving line. Both of these topics impact your guests’ experience because standing around doing nothing is not fun. If you […]

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Advice for a better ceremony experience

I don’t alwayswrite about religion, ritual and culture, although I find it so fascinating. This is, after all, a wedding column and in that spirit I have advice to offer. These suggestions are based on officiating countless weddings, and the focus here is on the ceremony, my area of expertise – so here goes: Guests: don’t […]

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Rituals are Everywhere

What?? She’s writing about rituals again? Yes I am, because rituals are a way to express something without words. A ritual can certainly express what your marriage commitment means to you and be a way to honor your culture or family. It might connect with your interests and values. Religious ceremonies are full of rituals, […]

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Quaker Values Stand the Test of Time

Sometimes I write about silly things in this column, but I also often write about religion, culture and ritual and explore how traditions might pertain to weddings. One important religion I have not written about yet (after all these years) is the Society of Friends, or Quakers. They are especially important to us here in […]

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The Road to Truth Can Vary

If you have even the slightest interest or knowledge of Judaism you most likely know the three major branches: Orthodox, Conservative and Reform. But did you know about Reconstructionist Judaism? This is a great example of how religion can evolve – although sometimes it seems as if it never will. Interestingly Israeli Jews are grouped into […]

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MILESTONES IN LIFE

There are three major milestones in the journey of life, at least in my way of thinking. They are birth, death, and marriage. These are times when you need to stop and reflect – whether celebrating or grieving.  Every week I try to share something interesting about weddings, but a friend recently asked if I’d […]

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