Tag Archives: Lois Heckman Celebrant

Everything’s Canceled, What Do We Do?

Talk about wedding stress! This is not a crisis over a dress or flowers. The Coronavirus has caused the cancellation of countless events. What if it’s your wedding? For that matter what if another emergency came up that puts your special event into question. What do you do? How would you handle that? It is […]

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Unplug it on National Day of Unplugging (and Other Important Times)

Some topics are worthy of revisiting. This is one of them. And before you assume this is about weddings – it is about so much more. It seems like everyone is connected to a device today, usually a smart phone. I realize that I, too, waste way too much time on the internet. It’s a […]

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Under My Umbrella

How to incorporate this every-day item into your wedding ceremony I want to talk about umbrellas, because they actually have many interesting cultural connections and surprising ritual uses. We know umbrellas shelter us from the wind, rain or even the sunshine, so they are ripe for symbolic representation. A cool French tradition involves the newlywed couple […]

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Exploring Some African and African American Wedding Traditions

I’ve written about and performed the well-known and beloved African American wedding ritual of ‘jumping the broom.’ Just to recap, it comes from the time when slaves, who were not allowed to marry, created their own rituals. It is a debate among scholars as to whether the custom was brought from Africa or created here, […]

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Why Ceremony Matters

Creating ceremonies is what I do, and every once in a while it’s good to stop and remember why. To my way of thinking, there are three really big transitions in life: birth, death and marriage. Every culture and religion, all around the world, has different ways to honor these milestones. Momentous occasions are honored […]

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Two Native American Inspired Rituals

Last week I wrote about a hand warming ceremony – an idea I came up with on a cold day. Another winter inspired ritual is a ‘blanket ceremony.’ It comes from a Native American tradition.  Blanket Ritual In the original, traditional Native American ceremony each partner is wrapped in separate, blue blankets. Then the officiant […]

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Breath is Life – A Winter Warming Ritual

Winter is a time when I hunker down. This is probably true for many people. Since weddings are few and far between, at least in our part of the world, the cold weather keeps me indoors, and provides lots of time to think and write. So I was thinking: on a cold day have you […]

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Weddings in Sicily

Every winter I take a vacation abroad, and I always try to crash a wedding if possible. Preparing in advance I want to learn about the local traditions. This year it’s Sicily, and as you read this I’m there right now! As I studied up on their wedding traditions I’ve learned that for Sicilians, a […]

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You’re Engaged… Now What?

Christmas is a popular time for proposals. A ring does make a wonderful surprise gift. If you just became engaged, sit back and enjoy the feeling for a minute, because it won’t be long before everything starts spinning, and hopefully not out of control.  If you haven’t told anyone yet, please tell your immediate family […]

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Life (and weddings) do not always go as planned.

Did you miss me? When I opened the paper Sunday morning there was no Pocono Wedding Talk  and I was stunned. After over a dozen years of writing this column something happened last week. I forgot to submit one. Blame it on the Thanksgiving holiday week, which no doubt threw off my routine, blame it on my […]

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