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Clichés – for better or for worse

We are all familiar with clichés – defined as an overused expression that, while making a point, often gets so stale as to lose its power. One I like is ‘ignorance is bliss,’ which seems to resonate more and more for me today. I really don’t like the message of ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you […]

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You’re doing WHAT for your wedding?

Last week I wrote about the sixties and how that era ushered in more self-expression, which, in turn affected weddings. I often write about doing things a little differently, how your wedding can be uniquely you. But what does the mean exactly? Beyond, say, unique signage or cool guest books, interesting décor… can you imagine […]

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‘Pup’tial Bliss

Dogs and Weddings – Two Wonderful Things. If you’re a dog person and you’re planning a wedding, I’ll bet you’ve thought about having your pup or pups involved. So many dog-loving couples think about their fur baby walking down the aisle. But can it happen? Maybe. Before you take that leap there are several obstacles […]

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Six things you need to know about weddings – Number 3 will amaze you

Did that headline grab you? It’s called click-bate. And while I do have things to share with you about weddings, I don’t want to trick you into reading. Too much of what passes for information is merely a means to make money, one way or another. But the catchy title does beg the question: what […]

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Timing is Everything for your Wedding Day

Today’s column concerns something very practical, with two issues related to timing because, as they say, ‘timing is everything.’  The concerns are: the gap between the ceremony and reception, and the time involved in a receiving line. Both of these topics impact your guests’ experience because standing around doing nothing is not fun. If you […]

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What is the UU? Who are Unitarians?

After writing this column for many years, sometimes I feel as if I’ve already written about every religion and cultural tradition, but of course that’s not possible. Not even close.According to some estimates there are roughly 4,200 religions and 195 countries in the world. That should keep me going! But I try to focus on traditions and cultures that […]

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Advice for a better ceremony experience

I don’t alwayswrite about religion, ritual and culture, although I find it so fascinating. This is, after all, a wedding column and in that spirit I have advice to offer. These suggestions are based on officiating countless weddings, and the focus here is on the ceremony, my area of expertise – so here goes: Guests: don’t […]

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Rituals are Everywhere

What?? She’s writing about rituals again? Yes I am, because rituals are a way to express something without words. A ritual can certainly express what your marriage commitment means to you and be a way to honor your culture or family. It might connect with your interests and values. Religious ceremonies are full of rituals, […]

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Quaker Values Stand the Test of Time

Sometimes I write about silly things in this column, but I also often write about religion, culture and ritual and explore how traditions might pertain to weddings. One important religion I have not written about yet (after all these years) is the Society of Friends, or Quakers. They are especially important to us here in […]

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Hey, is this a good idea?

Today’s column – not religion, not culture nor traditions. I can’t be so serious all the time!  Because I spend a lot of time on the internet, especially concerning weddings, I was thinking about how overwhelming it can be. There are so many ideas ‘out there’ – advice, cute ideas, you can easily get turned around. When […]

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