Tag Archives: Lois Heckman

In good times or bad…

One of the best things about being a Celebrant is working with wonderful couples who love each other and see good things in the future. But how do we reconcile love and goodness, when bad things happen around us? It’s helpful to remember that people have tied the knot during wartime, through military deployments, through [...]

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Navigating the complexities of interfaith weddings


I perform quite a few interfaith wedding ceremonies. Finding someone versed in this can be difficult and I’m proud to say I think I do a great job. But what exactly does this even mean? Many people think of an interfaith wedding as a Jewish/Christian one. But it can be almost any combination. I have [...]

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Wedding Photography – for now and the future

Your wedding is an important story, and we all know weddings can be an expensive undertaking. There are many ways to prioritize your budget. I hope photography is one that is at the top of your list. Even an elopement is worthy of beautiful photographs.

In our digital world everyone can take photos and who doesn’t have thousands of them filling up our hard-drives? I’m here to make the case for hiring a great photographer along with having actual prints made.

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The Art of Wedding

. The details you choose reflect something about who you are. When making financial choices, ask yourself: why do I want this, why do I need this, and what does it say about us? When choosing how to marry, who will officiate, do the same. Is a wedding a display, or is it something more?

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What’s Love Got To Do With It?

I’ve been officiating weddings and writing about them for a long time now. I have a simple topic today, one that we think is at the heart of it all. Why get married? In our modern world couples can live together and raise families without being married. The stigma of ‘out-of-wedlock’ is, for the most, [...]

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A Hodge-Podge of Some Fun, Funky and Fabulous Wedding Ideas

May I be frivolous for one column? I’m told I’m too serious sometimes, so I set out to look for some new wedding ideas. Is it even possible? With so much written about weddings, could I find something I hadn’t seen before? I’m not claiming these are unheard of, or ground breaking… but they do [...]

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Free yourself from Family Drama and Dysfunction

When it comes to your wedding, it can be truly that – YOUR wedding. But how is this possible if there are complex family issues? Everyone has some family drama. I’m reminded of a cartoon depicting a large auditorium with a sign over the stage reading: Functional Family Convention, with one lonely person sitting in the [...]

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Giving Meaning to the Moment

Don’t be afraid to tweak or omit ceremonial traditions. Wedding traditions come and go, evolve and change. There are some staples most  would probably never want to forgo – in both ceremony and celebration. I would never advocate leaving out the “I do” part of the ceremony (and in some states, it’s a legal requirement). [...]

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Give Them Something To Talk About

Recently, I ran into a couple I’d officiated for, maybe 10 years ago, and they shared something wonderful. They told me that people still talk about how they ‘jumped over that stick’ at their wedding. WOW. Mission accomplished. Rituals are meant to be memorable. Sometimes, however, the most memorable part of a wedding isn’t the [...]

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Giving Your Word

Going deep into choosing or creating the right wedding vows. Whatever type of wedding ceremony you are having, religious, spiritual, secular or civil, the exchange of vows is perhaps the most central element in the ceremony. It’s something I explore in depth with the couples I work with, and I’ve found they find it often [...]

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    Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: ... Read Full
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