Tag Archives: Lois Heckman

Partners in Planning

Here’s the important part: a wedding is not the sole purview of a bride. These are modern times, people! Examine your gender biases. Women – are you thinking this is your exclusive domain? Is this something you’ve planned and dreamed about for years? Or maybe you are a bit of a control freak. If so, you maybe be shutting out your partner.

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , | Leave a comment

When it rains… it pours!

When I get calls from couples asking me to officiate at locations such as state parks, waterfalls and other outdoor locales, I always ask: what’s your rain plan? Many people have not given this any thought.

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Get Married?

I believe in marriage because, at its healthiest and best, it creates a place of safety, where two people can grow, as individuals and as a couple. It has proven to promote longevity, stability, health and wellbeing.

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Common Threads of Finding Love

No matter how different the couple may appear to others, whether being of diverse nationalities, religions, or ethnicities, they speak of how they complement one another. Whether the reference point is Yin and Yang, Lucy and Ricky,or Jim Halpert and Pam Beesly, they fit together like pieces of a puzzle. This is sometimes called the ‘other half,’ or even ‘soul-mate.’

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Seeking understanding of world religions

Over the years I have written about many cultural and religious traditions. Along with Christianity, Judaism, Islam and Buddhism, I’ve written about Sikhs, Shintoism and Paganism. I’ve often explored Celtic customs, which I have found to be especially great for weddings, and Eastern European traditions, Native American, and various Hispanic traditions. The subject comes up [...]

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Variations on a Theme

There is an interesting intersection of the many customs and rituals of weddings. One with surprising commonalities is the African-American ‘jumping the broom’ and the Celtic ‘jumping the oak branch’. But today I want to talk about a tradition used in wedding ceremonies in Spain, Latin American countries, and the Philippines:The ‘arras’ or 13 Coins, sometimes even [...]

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Sand Stories: Exploring a Modern Ritual

I find that I am often writing about ancient traditions, the deep roots of weddings, and the connections between culture, religions, and the way all this has evolved. But there are a few modern rituals as well, ones that not all that old at all. There is the wine box, with or without the exchange [...]

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Wedding Wallflowers

8 Tips for Shy Brides or Grooms I’ve spoken with many couples who were concerned about being the center of attention on their wedding day, for both the ceremony and the celebration. It’s a bit ironic, because the wedding is really all about the couple. But for shy, introverted people, it can be terrifying. Large [...]

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Rituals to Pledge Love – Learning about Shintoism

The longer I officiate weddings, the more I recognize and appreciate the commonalities, connections and universalities of the human experience. As the old saying goes: ‘you learn something new every day,’ to which I might add: I hope so. I recently worked with a couple who followed a Buddhist spiritual path alongside Shintoism. These belief [...]

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Eight ideas for Letting Go

How do you let go of the things that do not matter? This is a big question in life, but I am, however, just going to talk about it in relation to weddings. All you really need to get married is a marriage license and someone to officiate the “I dos” and sign the license [...]

Posted in Wedding Ceremonies | Also tagged , , , , , , | Leave a comment
  • Blog Authors

    Lois Heckman

    Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: ... Read Full
  • Categories

  • Archives