Tag Archives: Lois Heckman

Giving Meaning to the Moment

Don’t be afraid to tweak or omit ceremonial traditions. Wedding traditions come and go, evolve and change. There are some staples most  would probably never want to forgo – in both ceremony and celebration. I would never advocate leaving out the “I do” part of the ceremony (and in some states, it’s a legal requirement). [...]

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Give Them Something To Talk About

Recently, I ran into a couple I’d officiated for, maybe 10 years ago, and they shared something wonderful. They told me that people still talk about how they ‘jumped over that stick’ at their wedding. WOW. Mission accomplished. Rituals are meant to be memorable. Sometimes, however, the most memorable part of a wedding isn’t the [...]

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Giving Your Word

Going deep into choosing or creating the right wedding vows. Whatever type of wedding ceremony you are having, religious, spiritual, secular or civil, the exchange of vows is perhaps the most central element in the ceremony. It’s something I explore in depth with the couples I work with, and I’ve found they find it often [...]

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Symbols within symbols across cultures and traditions

Since this is a weekly column (and I’ve been at it for many years now) I can’t possibly stick to writing about wedding ceremonies every single time.  And I don’t often offer fashion advice or write from the perspective of a wedding planner, either. With me – it’s usually about the meaning of ceremony, and [...]

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Getting Married on Mother’s Day

Most couples choose not to have their wedding day on a holiday. But I have performed a few ceremonies on various holidays, and it’s important to include some mention of it. Christmas is a big one, of course, and Christmastime weddings can be awesome. I’ve also performed ceremonies on the Fourth of July, Memorial Day, [...]

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A Fusion of Inspiration

Understanding and Using Elements of Buddhism in Your Wedding I received some nice feedback about my recent piece on Sikhs – their beliefs and wedding traditions. Thank you. It is not a very well-known in America, so it was especially worthwhile sharing a bit about Sikhism. Buddhism however, is very well known – if only [...]

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A few fun DIY ideas for your Wedding

Those who read this column regularly know I try to emphasis the big stuff. The deeper meaning of a wedding, especially the ceremony (my particular area of expertise). But from time to time ‘girls just wanna have fun.’ So here are a few ideas to add some of that fun to your wedding. Photos are [...]

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Finding or Creating a Beautiful Ceremony Space

Because I officiate so many weddings I have come to recognize what to look for in a great ceremony site. The ceremony – you know, the part where you are actually getting married – is the reason for the ‘big day.’ If your ceremony is not in a house of worship, you may want to think through [...]

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Let’s Call Them ‘Attendants’

-     Why a gender-neutral wedding party is a great idea The people standing up there with you at your wedding ceremony are more than just statues.  There is a reason you ask your closest friends, siblings or others to be by your side as you exchange your vows. So who are they?  How do [...]

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The Strange Story of Krampus – a Christmas Tradition

I couldn’t help but notice recently that Krampus is getting some attention. I wrote a little bit about the horrible Christmas demon quite a few years ago, but now I’m going to go a little deeper into it, because, well… it’s just so weird. I know, I know – this is supposed to be a [...]

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    Lois Heckman is a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant who officiates at weddings, funerals, and other ceremonies in the Poconos and beyond. She has performed hundreds of ceremonies and brings a wealth of knowledge to her work. Visit her website: ... Read Full
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