I don’t have a lot of rules about wedding ceremonies. I don’t tell couples what they should believe or what their ceremony should include. I’m fond of saying my one rule is ‘no candles outdoors,’ but in reality I do have another rule, and I’ll get it in a minute. But first I want to [...]
Following wedding trends isn’t my passion. Mostly, I really like to focus on the meaning of the wedding and marriage. But I must admit it is fun to look at what different couples are doing from time to time, and I have found a few ideas to share. Here’s an easy and simple one: At [...]
I was speaking with a bride recently who referred to herself as a Bridechilla, which I found both hilarious and wonderful. According to the Urban Dictionary a Bridechilla is a bride that remains calm, cool, and collected during her entire wedding experience. Bridechillas never use phrases such as ‘my day, the most important day of [...]
Coordinators can be hired for the entire process or just the day-of. There are many levels of service, they vary in the numbers of meetings you might need, and can cover specifics or a complete start to finish undertaking. A professional will also carry insurance, have great reviews and will, most importantly, listen to you.
I love that old song that says: love is wonderful the second time around. And about 50% of today’s wedding involved at least one partner who has been married before*. People often ask what’s appropriate for a second wedding. The short answer is, anything you want. The stigma of divorce is, thankfully, long past. And [...]
The Scout Motto is ‘be prepared,’ and that’s exactly what I advocate for outdoor weddings. I am often amazed at how unprepared couples, especially brides, and wedding guests are for an outdoor wedding. Weather is always an important factor in how you will enjoy the outdoor celebration. Too hot, too cold, too much sun in [...]
I’m not a psychologist nor do I play one on television, but I do have some thoughts about anxiety. Last year I worked with just a few frazzled brides and it got me thinking about the connections between anxiety, anticipation, nervousness and flat out unbecoming behavior. True anxiety is defined as the over-reaction to a [...]
When discussing weddings, I say it all the time: ‘do what’s right for you.’ There are certainly a lot of traditions and rules for weddings, and I do love history, culture, customs and most everything about weddings. But I don’t subscribe to the idea of doing something just because that’s ‘how it’s done.’ From the [...]
The spice ritual is pretty easy to understand – you simply choose different spices to represent the different people participating – in this case the bride and groom and their children. Learning something about each person and finding the herb or spice that related those traits is the key. Poetic license is required, of course.