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Why Get Married?

I believe in marriage because, at its healthiest and best, it creates a place of safety, where two people can grow, as individuals and as a couple. It has proven to promote longevity, stability, health and wellbeing.

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Seeking understanding of world religions

Over the years I have written about many cultural and religious traditions. Along with Christianity, Judaism, Islam and Buddhism, I’ve written about Sikhs, Shintoism and Paganism. I’ve often explored Celtic customs, which I have found to be especially great for weddings, and Eastern European traditions, Native American, and various Hispanic traditions. The subject comes up [...]

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Brides and their Fathers

There are many nuances to ceremony, and even before any words are said, the choreography, the entrances, and movements, have meaning and importance. Take the time to think through what was once a given and see if a revamp is right for you.

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Mothers and Daughters – 5 tips to smooth the way when planning your wedding together.

In the good old days (whenever that was) mothers planned their daughters’ weddings and had almost complete control over everything. These days, brides and couples often take the lead in creating their own celebrations. But we should not forget that a wedding is a hallmark of enormous change and that is why moms (and dads) [...]

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Variations on a Theme

There is an interesting intersection of the many customs and rituals of weddings. One with surprising commonalities is the African-American ‘jumping the broom’ and the Celtic ‘jumping the oak branch’. But today I want to talk about a tradition used in wedding ceremonies in Spain, Latin American countries, and the Philippines:The ‘arras’ or 13 Coins, sometimes even [...]

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Understanding Pagan Rituals

There is often a misunderstanding about what pagan, wiccan, and nature- based ceremonies are all about. Occasionally I have requests to include pagan rituals in weddings and I’m happy to do so. Now, I am no expert, and certainly am not conducting a true Wiccan or Pagan wedding ceremony, but it is fun to include [...]

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Wedding Wallflowers

8 Tips for Shy Brides or Grooms I’ve spoken with many couples who were concerned about being the center of attention on their wedding day, for both the ceremony and the celebration. It’s a bit ironic, because the wedding is really all about the couple. But for shy, introverted people, it can be terrifying. Large [...]

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Rituals to Pledge Love – Learning about Shintoism

The longer I officiate weddings, the more I recognize and appreciate the commonalities, connections and universalities of the human experience. As the old saying goes: ‘you learn something new every day,’ to which I might add: I hope so. I recently worked with a couple who followed a Buddhist spiritual path alongside Shintoism. These belief [...]

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Eight ideas for Letting Go

How do you let go of the things that do not matter? This is a big question in life, but I am, however, just going to talk about it in relation to weddings. All you really need to get married is a marriage license and someone to officiate the “I dos” and sign the license [...]

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When Actions Speak Louder…

I write a lot about customs and rituals; why am I always going on about this? What does it even mean, and why is it important? Rituals are actions and words that are performed repeatedly and represent something specific. Something as simple as walking down the aisle at a wedding is a ritual. Symbols are [...]

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