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The Quiet Wedding

No two couples are alike, and not everyone wants a big fuss made over their nuptials, yet they still recognize that it is truly one of life’s big milestones and worthy of celebration. At least I hope they do. When I hear a request for a ceremony that is ‘short and sweet’ it is often [...]

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Spotlight on Grooms

So much focus is put on women and weddings. Maybe too much, really – focus that becomes pressure, stress and unrealistic expectation. Remember that men, too, are almost always part of the occasion and equation, and too often not given enough thought. Time to look at the men-folk again! Before I get to all the [...]

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Should You Accommodate Difficult Guests?

The concept of the dysfunctional family has become a bit of a joke, with everyone declaring their family is ‘not normal.’ And what is ‘normal’ anyway? But for those with severe problems, it’s no joke! Whether it’s addiction, mental health, or developmental issues, there are probably people in our lives who have circumstances that may [...]

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When The Divorce Doesn’t Work Out

When a couple has rekindled their spark, found understanding, and if they value what they had as a couple, then re-marrying could be right. Maybe they acted too quickly when they divorced, and often times they say they never really stopped loving one another.

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Engaging Thoughts

How can you get through the gauntlet of questions? If you or someone you know has recently become engaged, I hope this column brings awareness that will help prepare someone for the coming tide of inquiry. Then you can decide what information you are ready to share, and just plead the 5th for the rest of them.

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Smooth Sailing for a Calm Wedding Day

I hereby issue a small storm warning, storms you can avoid on your wedding day!  Some storms are big, and some are small, but they all matter in their own way. There is so much wedding advice floating around the internet, not to mention from your family and well-intentioned friends. Here are a few of [...]

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Free yourself from Family Drama and Dysfunction

When it comes to your wedding, it can be truly that – YOUR wedding. But how is this possible if there are complex family issues? Everyone has some family drama. I’m reminded of a cartoon depicting a large auditorium with a sign over the stage reading: Functional Family Convention, with one lonely person sitting in the [...]

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Giving Meaning to the Moment

Don’t be afraid to tweak or omit ceremonial traditions. Wedding traditions come and go, evolve and change. There are some staples most  would probably never want to forgo – in both ceremony and celebration. I would never advocate leaving out the “I do” part of the ceremony (and in some states, it’s a legal requirement). [...]

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Give Them Something To Talk About

Recently, I ran into a couple I’d officiated for, maybe 10 years ago, and they shared something wonderful. They told me that people still talk about how they ‘jumped over that stick’ at their wedding. WOW. Mission accomplished. Rituals are meant to be memorable. Sometimes, however, the most memorable part of a wedding isn’t the [...]

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A Conversation Worth Having – Love doesn’t have to be blind

I didn’t think I’d ever write about something like this, it is a difficult topic in many ways. But why should it be taboo in a wedding column? So, the question is, should you consider a prenup, or is it just for the rich and famous? A prenuptial agreement, or prenup, is a legal written [...]

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